I have been involved with a married woman for 4 months. We became lovers 1 week after she was married and she has since moved out of her house,at my urging,and BACK IN with her sister. She did not tell me she was married until HE found out she was having an affair. He is 46, she is 30 and beautiful. He is trying to keep it together by saying she made a mistake and that they should go to counseling. She professes her love for me all the time and says that she wants to be with me, but that she is in a very diffucult situation and she doesn't want to look like a whore. He is actively trying to get her back, even though he knows she is/was having an affair. She is from a foreign country and with him, she had a house and a stable life, and throws this in her face. Her family is pressuring her to reconcile and she may be cracking. She also told me that since she has been with me, she stopped having sex with him, and tend to believe her, since she showed me a letter he wrote her.
2007-05-06 04:10:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you should not. No one is worth this amount of drama. Good relationships are tough sometimes; this one has started with deceit as it's foundation. It's only going to get worse. She is a grown woman incapable of making good decisions; leave her alone.
2007-05-06 04:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but nothing can become good of this you need to get out of this before he ends out getting to the point of killing you, jealousy can be a powerfull thing and a person can end out doing things that they normally would not do.
You are stepping in the middle of an others marriage and that is just a no NO. For your sake and hers get out now, to be honest the moment you found out she was married you should have dumped her, something sounds awful fishy here.
Good luck
2007-05-06 04:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by David R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reread the first sentence in the paragraph following your initial question.
Pick out the word that stands out the most......Married. No matter what else is going on, she is married and she is not married to you.
Get out of this. If you are going/destined to be together, she will get a divorce, and then you can be together.
No self respecting person should "be involved" with a person who is married to someone else.
Good luck.
2007-05-06 04:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both you and the husband need to kick her to the curb. She's a heartless whore who doesn't love either one of you at all. Find somebody else before this woman hurts you in a way that you can never get back to the way you were before.
2007-05-06 07:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE is a drama queen, and life with her will be one problem after another.
Not telling you she was married makes her a LIAR----is that the kind of person you want to be with?
Stop seeing her or taking calls from her. You don't need that kind of trouble in your life.
2007-05-06 05:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a cheater...if you don' t mind dating a cheater then when she's free (if that occurs) then go for it...otherwise, you are a cheater too and you both are saying it's okay for people to cheat on you.
What goes around, comes around. Can you handle it?
2007-05-06 04:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get rid ov her if she was cheating after a week ov being married how can you trust her your self when she didnt tell you she was married untill he found out get rid ov her an find sum 1 better
2007-05-06 04:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She gets married, and immediately starts scr*wing around?
And you want to know if this is who you want in your life?
Well, if you want to be involved with someone who will immediately cheat on you, then yes.
Otherwise, no.
2007-05-06 07:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt
she wasnt honest woth u at the first place plus she is MARRIED
2007-05-06 04:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by rima 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she loves you and unhappy with her married, you shall be there for her now and let her get through the difficult emotion time. ask your self, do you want to be in an unhappy married? stand by her if you are a man.
2007-05-06 04:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋