Have you ever met up with an old high school sweetheart later on in life?

Question

A good ( female ) friend from highschool found me on classmates .com & now wants to meet up for coffee to "catch up" on life & the such. We have not seen each other in almost 20 years. I have to say, i'm rather uncomfortable with this and i'm not sure why. In a way, I feel that the past is the past...and that's that.

Had any similar situations? What did you do?

Answer 1

I say go! The worst thing to do is over think it. Just go. Approach it the way we all approached things when we were back in school. This is just a friend who had fun and enjoyed you years ago and would love to see how you are today. Make it fun and casual...... go have a bite to eat and laugh and talk and remember old times with your friends. How fun to see where she is today and share what is going on in your life as well. What's past IS past. And you so don't have to go back in time and conjure up feelings that might have once existed. The truth is....... this is the best way in the world to have closure over any old feelings that DID exist. You wouldn't be thinking this through so much if there weren't. *wink* So I say go! Enjoy..... keep it light..... and she'll pick up on the same easy going vibe and all will really be fun and not intense as you might fear. But come let us know how it turns out!!


As far as having similar situations..... yes. But it was a college friend that looked me up and found my work email address. Kinda threw me for a loop. But I took it as a great compliment (as should you). So yes...... I met him for lunch and kept it light and we had a ball. Funny story actually. As I pulled out of restaurant my car stalled in the middle of an intersection because..... *cough* I ran out of gas. He jumped out of his car and ran to mine and helped push it to the side of the road. We sat there laughing and he said.... "Gosh, I don't remember you being so high maintainance! maybe I'm glad we never dated after all!" lol It was a fun (albeit frustrating) ending to an excellent reunion!! :)

Answer 2

Some trashy entertainment in your face. Your husband should want to meet with her at a restaurant. If it were a high school reunion thingy i'd understand- yuck! Leave Jen out of this. it's your husband who is liking it and you entertaining it. You two are creating an opportunity. Anyway, you can go with your husband (silly- i wonder what you all will talk about). Your husband should not go but don't be surprised if he doesn't go as you say and later sneaks.

Answer 3

I have because I moved back to the town I went to high school in. It is hard to say of it is a bad situation or not. The person that found me pretended to be normal for a few months...and then out of nowhere said that I owed him. I am more inclined to say go to coffee, see how things go, but don't put any stake in the friendship working out. People change. If it works out..great. Maybe she will bring you on one of those hidden camera shows to tell you she secretly loves you. LOL! sorry just kidding! I wish you all the best of luck!

Answer 4

I haven't really been in that situation. In college, a guy who I dated in high school wanted to just "meet up" because we were going to the same college. Then, he acted weird like I was going to start dating him again and started spreading rumors about me. Weird. But that had only been about 4 years after I had dated him.

But, you know what? I saw go with your instinct. If you feel uncomfortable with it, there may be a VERY good reason for that!!!

When my uncle was about 45, his ex-g/f from high school found him and met up with him, but it was weird. She was divorced and she kept saying that she had never really gotten over him. He was happily married, though..and the whole thing was sketchy.

Man, why am I taking forever to answer this question and rambling on and on?? I don't know. I say don't meet up with her. Let bygones be bygones.

Answer 5

Yes, I have had a similar situation happen to me and I accepted the invitation....and actually we had a nice time....The past is the past, but the future is right in front of you. And you control how that turns out with what decisions you make.....Just cause you two used to mess around or whatever you did when you were 17,18 yrs of age (or younger) does not mean it's gonna happen again.....You're both adults now.......it's really up to you.

Answer 6

Yes, I met up with an old sweetheart, 25 years after graduating. We hooked up and got together a couple of times. It was hard though, since I live in Illinois and he lives in Oregon. I flew there twice and had the time of my life. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Answer 7

Yes I have. We met at a work function between both companies. We spent the whole night talking to each other. Later that night, we became very friendly, but I could not go ahead with it.

I still keep in contact with her now and then.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, my HS sweetheart died in a car wreck the summer of my Senior year. I'll meet with him again one day, in Heaven.

I did find some of my girlfriends that were like best friends in HS on one of those sites and now we talk every week. 3 of them came to my wedding 12 years later. But, if you dated someone and broke up, especially if it was not amicable, that would be a bit awkward. I'd maybe meet to see if she's super hot and rich (jk, I'm not shallow like that) but see what's changed. But be honest with her up front about your feelings.

Answer 9

Yes. Whilst the thrill and rush are fantastic - no doubt spurred by nostalgia of first love, you cannot have the past back. Someone will end up getting hurt. Always does.

If you do meet, keep it platonic.

Answer 10

Yes I met up w ith my high school sweetheart at the reunion. Life goes on and we are still friends