I love my wife and all but alot of the time she dosent have time for me so i tend to just call a female friend to let loose. i now she would explode if she found out but i need someone to talk to alot of times. i've talked to her about it but she says i want everything my way. any advice?
2007-05-06 02:52:50 · 10 answers · asked by devin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay i understand that everyone needs someone to talk to. but listen carefully my friend because this lesson is one that was learned quite recently and it was done the hard way. My husband and i both allowed my ex best friend to take the emotional place of each other instead of turning to each other for that emotional support and it ended with them both having an affair. Sir, I can honestly tell you that through therapy we've both learned that allowing outsiders to take the place of a spouse is always wrong. It leads to disaster. What you really should do is sit your wife down and tell her very pointedly that she is NOT meeting your emotional needs and you would rather confide in her rather than have to seek that type of fulfillment else where. That you've learned that this leads to trouble with an affair and that you're seriously trying to avoid this. You and your wife need to learn to be best friends and lovers again. There needs to be a compromise and you both need to talk this out. Let her know that you don't want everything your way, but would rather have a partnership. Communication and trust are key things in a marriage. And right now you and your wife have a serious communication break down. This is only going to lead to something undesirable in your marriage. I wish you luck and hope that things get better for you.
2007-05-06 03:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sir, I might suggest that if you carried your share of the household responsibilities, she may have some time for you.
Otherwise, all her time is going to be spent providing an income, grocery shopping, doing the laundry, carting the kids and cleaning the house for the family. So, if you're not already asking, then start asking every day what she needs you to do. that way, eventually, she can ask what you need.
2007-05-06 09:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on how your wife would feel about talking to another female on the phone. My husband used to call females he met on the internet, but I trust my husband, and know that they're having a clean conversation. If you're talking about sexual matters, I would think she wouldn't approve. There's nothing wrong with talking to other people, just remember who you promised to dedicate your life to.
2007-05-06 03:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relatively relies upon on your toddler and what they desire. I communicate with my mom on a daily basis, now and back 2 or thrice, yet my mom would not communicate with my brothers as regularly, perhaps two times a week. i like talking to my mom and that i think like us as young little ones desire a feeling of being significant in our mothers and fathers lifestyles yet no longer overly needed! it somewhat is okay to call and say hi i only had to be certain the form you're doing and additionally comprise issues approximately your self, do no longer make the telephone call intirely approximately them, enable them to comprehend the form you're doing. attempt to pay interest on what sort of temper they're in, and shop it short and candy. desire this facilitates.
2016-10-30 11:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by gartman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. You and her better find the time to talk..otherwise your marriage will go down the tubes. She would flip if she knows. If you guys cannot talk or she is too busy..write a letter and hopefully that will get her attention.
2007-05-06 03:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by emeraldfire68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're married and call members of the opposite sex "girls"??? maturity seems to be your problem... and people in relationships make time for each other... if you really need another woman's opinion... talk to mommy... or auntie... or grammy... in any case... grow up first
2007-05-06 03:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a co worker like you call all the the time he was married and so was i ...he was like a child , in a lot of ways ..
my husband died and we got closer and he asked me if i
wanted him to leave his marriage ....even though it broke my heart to end our friendship ...i said "GO HOME AND STAY "
2007-05-06 03:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your talking about .
2007-05-06 03:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? 12!
2007-05-06 02:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're on your way to a divorce
your wife WILL know, and she WILL leave you!
2007-05-06 02:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋