i think my husband is having an affair. What do i do?

Answer 1

Kill yourself?

Answer 2

What makes u think he is having an affair?

Answer 3

Keep your mouth shut until you get undeniable proof that he is. If he is, and you just ask him, ofcourse he is gonna deny it, and only work harder at covering his tracks. There are lots of "signs" out there to tell if he is. Google: Signs to catch a cheater. They give you a list a mile long of behaviors to look for to tell if your man is cheating. Mine had an affair and if I had known the signs to watch for back then, I would have caught him, cuz he hit almost every single one of the "red flags". I wish you luck and hope he aint doing this to you. And, hun, if you go digging for it, just be prepared for the worse. And be ready to make choices that you never thought you'd ever have to make. I wish you luck.

Answer 4

Have you asked him?? If not, then that would be my first suggestion. If he denies it, and you think he's lying, then you will need to do some sleuthing, to find out for sure. Has he bought new clothes lately, new underwear, does he take more interest in his personal hygiene, does he stay out late, and make excuses for not being intimate with you??? These are all indications that he might be straying. Be prepared for the worst, and get legal advice, if the worst becomes the worst.

Answer 5

Calmly discuss your thoughts with him and ask him if he is having an affair. Then, depending on his answer decide your next steps. He should be willing to stop the affair immediately if he is.

Answer 6

What you need to do is pray about the situation and let God lead you to the solution. If he is cheating let God handle him for you! If he wants to be out there doing what he knows is not right God will turn this situation around for you for the better. I hope there are not kids involved. If so you don't need to stick this out for the sake of them. What example would you be setting for them. Letting them believe that an affair is the way to go and it is not. Let go and Let GOD! I promise you it will work out in your favor!

Answer 7

Gal do not think but be sure. Don't be over suspicious but be alert. I am sure there must be a reason why you are thinking like that. So find out the truth and confront ur hubby only when you have concrete evidence.

Answer 8

Seven Questions to Ask if Your Partner Has Been Unfaithful
An engagement symbolizes a commitment you make to one special person. But what do you do if your spouse has cheated — or you suspect he has cheated — before your big day? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Should you still go through with the wedding?
Moving Forward After Infidelity
Whether you're the one who has strayed from your relationship or you're the partner who feels betrayed, Dr. Phil can help you move forward.

Were you cheated on?


It is absolutely vital for you to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time.


Don't try to make sense out of nonsense. Rationalizing your cheating spouse's behavior or sympathizing with him/her is pointless. It is never OK to go outside of your relationship to solve problems within a relationship. It's not your fault.


Time heals nothing. It is what you do with the time that matters.


Remember that it is better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.


If your partner wants back in, he/she will have to earn his/her way back into the relationship. Renegotiate the relationship in a way that works for both of you.


There comes a point in time where you may have to draw a line and say, "That's it, I'm done. I'm not mad at you. I withdraw my feelings, I withdraw my emotions. You just go do whatever you're going to do because I'm not going to live like this anymore." Don't stay together for the children. Remember, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one. They're much better off with one well-adjusted, happy, thriving parent, than they are with two who are cheating, lying, fighting, and living with stress and pressure.


If there was a child born of the infidelity, understand that your spouse will forever have a relationship with that child's other parent. You have to make the decision about whether you can resolve to be part of that or not.


Did you have an affair?



Own the problems that you created by having an affair. You cannot change what you don't acknowledge.


It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you've been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe. That is a ridiculous comparison.


In order to resolve your relationship, contact with "the other person" must be cut off 100 percent. You can't work on dealing with the consequences of the affair while you're still having it.


Don't rely on your heart to tell you what to do; rely on your intellect. Do what logic tells you is the right thing to do.


Make the hard decisions. Either leave the marriage to free your partner, or commit to stay. Remember, checking out of one relationship before you finish it appropriately doesn't work.


Ask yourself: What are you doing to help your partner get past the affair?


Be mature enough to recognize that life is not always all about you and what feels good for you in the moment. If you are married and have children, you have an obligation and a commitment that far transcends what feels good.


Help the partner who did not have the affair find emotional closure. You must do whatever it takes until your partner finds it. If it requires you to check in with your spouse multiple times a day, then do it. It'll require you being where you're supposed to be, when you're supposed to be, 24 hours-a-day, seven days-a-week, so your spouse can trust you again. And you do it until.


If a child was born of the infidelity, you will have to have contact with the other person in order to be co-parents. And you do this the right way by not having any contact without your spouse's involvement. If you want to talk with the other person, then you do it with your spouse present.


Want to know if something is cheating? If you wouldn't do it with your spouse standing there, it's cheating.


If your marriage is over and you have children, understand that your relationship with your ex will never end. You will always at least be co-parents of your children. Build a new relationship as their allies.


Do you know what a healthy relationship is? Figure out what you want and behave your way to success.



An affair does not necessarily foretell the end of a relationship. How do you decide if you should stay, or cut your losses and move on? Dr. Phil has seven questions to ask to determine if your cheating partner deserves a second chance.


Is this an isolated event or a pattern?
Does your partner own his bad behavior or make excuses for it?
Does he have insight into how he's hurt you or is he oblivious?
Is he sorry for his choice or sorry he got caught?
Is he willing to clean up his act, or is he in denial?
Is this out of character or does he have an insensitive gene?
Is this a legacy or new behavior?
The previous seven questions you asked of your partner. One major question you have to ask of yourself is: If you reinvested in this relationship and allowed yourself to trust, and your partner cheated, do you have the depth and strength to recover from it, or would you be emotionally bankrupt?



Dr. Phil says this final question is the deal-breaker. If you can confidently say that you would have the courage to recover, you can move forward in your relationship with a spirit of optimism.

Answer 9

Talk to your lover and ask him what he thinks. Maybe even have him beat up your husband for screwing around on you.

Or you could just screw your husbands brains out before he leaves the house, and he'll be too worn out to do anyone else.

Answer 10

lf you think he is! then, sorry, but you are most likely right, women have Good instinct, so Don't ignore your gut feeling. Just remember- once you find out, you cant ignore it, so heartache will happen, be prepared for that, or stay mute, and hope it goes away with a few hints- that you are on to him. good luck

Answer 11

Firstable get proof.. secondable if he is cheating confront him at once, demand him to stop and if he don't leave him don't waste your time with a cheating man.. is not going to get any better they will always cheat... You have two choices take it or leave him.. Once a cheater always a cheater.. good luck.