all the pain and heartache.....would you do it again ?
2007-05-06 01:30:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not worth it.. and if you're thinking of getting married anyway make sure you get a pre-nup, get a cheap wedding and don't get pregnant... divorce is expensive! otherwise.. the difference is only paperwork called "marriage certificate"
2007-05-06 02:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by flirtalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!! There are no guarantees..... Why would anyone wish to give love and closeness and that special companionship only once???????? Just because a marriage didn't last 45 years didn't mean it was a failure.. Being with that special person is toooo precious to say one has only one soul-mate. One can have several.
Life is unpredictable, and people change, or negative parts of their personality that didn't affect them or the marriage sometime take over, and, alas, become intolerable, and divorce is the real only answer. But hon, oh, yes, marriage is worth a second or third try.... Just pick those people that don't carry lots of baggage, or at least manage it well...
However, there are some guaranteed failure recipes__ marry someone of a different religion, politics, race, less intelligent that you, get preggers to trap a guy, have a volitile temper, super selfish, no negotiating skills, marry too young, have no job ethic, no education... etc. These are mixtures for failure and misery very soon.... actually, they are even if one does not marry....These are the items of failing in life.
2007-05-06 09:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes ! because just as it takes two to marry it takes two to get a divorce. In marriage you have to take the bad with the good. In divorce it comes down to both people acting and reacting to one another.Everything you do in a relationship is based on what each puts into it. How you set things up to how you set things down. When things happen to the point of making choices that affect the relationship and offend and hurt one another each individual has to decide what is acceptable and not acceptable. So when one is so off balance and remains unequal in the marriage divorce is often the only way to balance the scale. It doesn't mean that both people are bad here it just means that we see things differently and grow differently apart as a couple. I learned alot more about myself in my past marriage than what I could learn in blaming my ex for what went wrong. Those years were in understanding more about how I put my life where it was and not measuring it by his own failure to it. It was worth it all to me in that I discovered that I could only count on myself to do what is right in life and not hold my ex to be accountable for it. I don't look back and feel anger or that all those years were for nothing.......it only prepared me to be stronger in life for myself and within myself to make better choices for my future. From that marriage I look at the four children that were created from it and I realize that there was some good in it. Unfortunately many lives were affected from both of mine and my ex spouses choices......and although we were both selfish in the love we could have given to one another.........we never were selfish in giving them life or love where anything was concerned.As two people falling short in what we had hoped we could mean to each other we came to understand what it is to be human. The marriage was worth it because all though we chose to wound each other we also chose to forgive and we both moved on with other people that were better suited for us in the long run.
2007-05-06 09:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only good thing that came out of my marriage was my children. No, I would not ever marry again and certainly not to the same person.
2007-05-06 09:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been married yet, but I believed it's worth it.
What matters most is that you've "loved" the person though it doesn't turn to be the way it should be.
2007-05-06 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I`d remarry, would be my third time and I would strongly believe it`s for life like the 2 previous ones.
2007-05-06 08:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, let me assume I speak for most of your respondents:
NO, no, it was not worth it and still isn't worth it...
That's why we're divorced.
2007-05-06 08:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I definitely would! I'd just be extra careful and be really really sure before I take the plunge again :-))
2007-05-06 08:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not yet married.but stil l want to answer your question. To make a clap its always required two hands. For example if right hand is your wife then the left is ...........
You better understand what I mean.
2007-05-06 08:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Bablu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - it destroys a person
2007-05-06 08:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Yvonne W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋