How do i deal with this...(brother troubles)?

Question

my brother is 23 and he lives away from home. since he's been gone he has made a whole bunch of new friends who i like to describe as the 'wrong crowd'. don't get me wrong, they are lovely people, when they are sober. they drink wayyyy too much, and way too often, they're into recreational drugs (which i assumed was just pot) and they are just simply very dependant on alcohol and probably drugs to have a good time.

my brother seems to really love his new lifestyle. i was starting to accept that my brother is a piss head when last night i found out he's getting into more serious drugs like cocaine. this has completely thrown me off. i don't know what to say to him or if i should even get involved. i'm his little sister i don't feel like i have the right to tell him what to do, but it's just so awful to see my brother do this. especially me because i don't drink and i stay away from all drugs (i'm 20 by the way) and i just can't watch my brother get addicted to this trash.

if i confront him on this, he won't deny it he will claim that it's just a bit of fun and it's nothing. that's the worst reaction because basically everything i say will go out the other ear.
i know he cares a lot about me and he would hate to see me doing what he does, so why can't he see that what he does influences me too? if i had a weaker personality i would probably think it's ok to do the trash he does.

so my question is, how do i deal with this. i want him to stop doing all this crap, and i'm wondering i should involve my parents. i'm not one to dob on my brother but this is actually a serious issue. if he keeps prgressing with stronger drugs who knows where he could end up, and with what damage.

any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks

Answer 1

Make him sit down and listen to you. Tell him you don't want to be the one who has to identify his body on a slab. He may think he hasn't a drugs problem, that's how they all start out. I was having real problems with one of my brothers who had an anger problem. He was also on some type of drug. He'd go out at night, get into a fight and if he came off the worst, he'd be out the next night, looking for revenge. I got tired of patching him up and sat him down for a talk one day, told him I lived in fear of having to identify his body one day. He realized how stupid he was being and actually promised to change. If you knew how stubborn he is, you'd know it was a minor miracle. He changed, came off the stuff and learned how to control his anger. If you have to involve your parents..do it. Best of luck

Answer 2

there is nothing you can do. he is an adult. nag him about it, or rat him out to your parents and you will just alienate him. he will eventually mature and outgrow this lifestyle, or he might get into serious trouble. the only thing you can do is be there to support him if and when he needs it

Answer 3

Tell your mom and put him in rehab. Or show him pictures of ppl who got addicted to it. DO reasearch and teach him how many people DIED because of that product.