she has married to someone else now and after a long time we were talking and in that conversation i mentioned to her that she was not good in bed and she got pissed out of this and cried a lot. Did i said something wrong / am i not suppose to tell her that?
2007-05-06 00:57:28 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now that’s very bad on your part you should not have done so. Just imagine what her husband thing about this? If you came to know the same thing about your wife from her bf how bad you will feel that he is insulting your wife for not being good in bed, never do it again it really hurts not only the person but even his/her spouse. O.K. Be careful next time.
2007-05-06 01:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you only told her after 8 years...in a way, she might be thinking that you are deceiving her...and she might be thinking she satisfied you in bed all this while but she wasn't at all...any woman would be terribly upset and hurt when being labelled as not good in bed...why didn't you tell her earlier? You were supposed to tell her within the first year of marriage and not after 8 years...say if you were to tell her right from the beginning, you need to continue by saying that you would help and guide her on how to satisfy you sexually...throwing those hurtful words at her out of a sudden is like throwing a bombshell in her life...be sensitive to your newly-wed wife and tell her if she doesn't satisfy you
2007-05-06 01:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you realize that it takes 2 to be good in bed??? Not just 1??? Did you think that you were King Stud??? Did you try making some suggestions to change things??? She is probably better off where she is now. At least someone else had the common sense to marry her!!!! He must have liked something about her!!!!
2007-05-06 01:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's being stupid for being bothered with your remarks, which by the way is rude and insensitive to say the least. But I also think that you brought it up only coz you're pissed she's married to someone else now. Is this some ego thing? Hmmm....seems like it. I just hope that her husband knows how to make up for her supposed 'lack of' sexual skills.
2007-05-06 01:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After hard practice during last 8 years, you can be assured that your GF has been excellent performer in bed. Just take a test and then pass the remarks.
2007-05-06 01:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Gautam B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow.
Major insult.
It is like telling someone "I never loved you." instead of "Our relationship didn't work out longer term because we were too much alike"
Now all her memories/feeling that she felt you had seem like they were all a lie. She wonders perhaps why you stuck it out with her...was she the only one willing to open her legs for you ? It puts a whole different perspective on the past relationship as if she was lead on.
I don't really know what to say. She may never want to speak to you again and she would be smart not too.
2007-05-06 10:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELLOOOO...
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU..!!
of course you said something wrong..!! it may seem okay for you too say it but hello it will hurt the other person... imagine yourself in her shoes..!! and hello you have no rights to judge her now.. shes married and shes someone elses life. so what right do you have to say something about what happened btween you now after so may years..!
and she is married she has her husband to judge her and no one else! you are her past and be that dont intrude in her life and sexual matters.. you freak!!!
i am sorry but that was something that you cant get forgiveness for..!!! cheapster
and by the way she IS not your gf.... she WAS... and remember that!
2007-05-06 01:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by not so confused soul.. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you have liked to hear that?
I have to be brutually honest with you. If she wasn't good in bed, it probably had more to do with YOU than it had to do with HER.
So, yeah, you were wrong..you were beyond wrong. You were a total and complete jerk. Hopefully, she'll realize the best thing that happened to her was to NOT be with you. What a HUGE mistake that would have been!
2007-05-06 01:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about it !??!?! How would YOU feel if someone told you that. Obviously you hurt her feelings. You should try to be a little more considerate in the future. There's nothing wrong with telling the truth, but know when not to use it in poor taste.
2007-05-06 01:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Cujo's Mom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
should have kept your mouth shut. I have been married 23 yrs and my wife is not good in bed (not that she is in it more than 2 times a year), but I know better to tell her that.
2007-05-06 01:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋