Ladies, do you feel like society expects too much from you?

Question

I think the messages sent to women today are way too much for women to be able to reasonably do. For example, they expect them to have a great career making lots of money at the same time they are expected to be a good mother (which is impossible). Or, they are expected to look like pretty models in their 20s. I think women are pressured to buying lots of make up and beauty products to make themselves look up and made to feel ashamed of having stretch marks. Ladies, just let me say that you should consider stretch marks as beauty marks and not be ashamed of them. And don't worry if you don't like you are 25 years old - that is ridiculous. The human body ages with time and beauty can be seen from any age.

Answer 1

Absolutely. Feminism was a horrible rip off and has left women in much worse shape than before.

Until the onset of that historical diabolical social movement known as communist feminism, women and men had a pretty good way of working things out. The time-honored husband working and the wife at home might not have been perfect but it certainly was not all that bad.

The communist goal is a loveless society, people manipulated and living for the state, not family, nation, religion, or any of the traditional fulfilling roles of the individual. The pure Communist doctrines of feminism and playboyism are strong tools to destroy society. The traditional family with traditional values was marked for destruction.

Not all women need to marry and have children but the vast majority do. Children represent our organic growth. As recently as fifty years ago, the role of wife and mother was honored. Nutrition and health were better, children were grounded more from the home; Mother was the glue that held a family together yet supplied the grease to keep things running smoothly. After 1960, society was subjected to the vicious campaign of social engineering designed to disparage these roles and make women seek fulfillment in career instead

Led by the Rockefeller Foundation, this media campaign was made to look spontaneous and "modern." Its goal was to decrease the birth rate and destabilize society by tearing the heterosexual bond and pitting men against women. Divide and conquer. Besides the manipulative goal of altering society towards their ends, the Rockefellers and their banker friends wanted to charge double income tax on a family. Their goal is eventually to have every adult paying tax.

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Men and women have been tricked into forgetting that we are part of a natural cycle, and the ages of 18-25 for women are critical to starting a family. In the same way as the apple tree blossoms in the spring, young women need to marry and have children when nature intended.

The Rockefellers want women and men to miss the opportunity to start strong families that will protect them from enslavement.

Feminism and playboyism have robbed males of their rightful position in society as head of a household. Minus the challenges of fatherhood and family, a boy remains a boy forever, never learning responsibility and true growth, the joy of loving and giving.

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How the Rockefellers Pulled Women into Feminism and Why

In America, the cultural measure of a woman's value is her sex appeal. As this asset depreciates quickly, she is neurotically obsessed with appearance and plagued by weight problems. Not all, but this is alas the norm and the problems are starting younger every year.

As an adolescent, her role model is Britney Spears, a singer whose act approximates a strip tease. From Britney, she learns that she will be loved only if she gives sex. Thus, she learns to "hook up" rather than to demand patient courtship and true love. As a result, dozens of males know her before her husband does. She loses her innocence, which is a part of her charm. She becomes hardened and calculating

Thank heavens some companies are actually noticing that women with wrinkles and grey hair are not dead yet! Dove is doing a great job with this. I wish more would. Personally, I am love me as I am and don't buy into being what I am not.

Great question Sandy. Thanks for the opportunity to vent. BTW, before I am slammed, I think Feminism did do a few really good things, but, in the long run, with the way it destroyed family life, I don't think the trade off was worth it.

Answer 2

Yes. I feel that society has put alot on a woman's shoulders now adays. Being a Mother is a 24 hour a day job and then we are to work a career and look like the models and stars on top of all of that? Hell most nights after I get home from work I make dinner then serve (thats right serve) my husband then my son and then feed the baby. Then its time for homework (thats right Mom is also teacher) Then baby's bathtime and then sons. by that time its 9 oclock....and I haven't even eaten. My day starts at 6 AM my lunch hour is used to do all the running so no eating there unless it is unhealthy and I eat it at work. Breakfast? hah Thank god for cerial bars.

Looking at this rant...yeah a little bit of pressure. But I will not be less of a wife or a mother and to live I must work so I do what I have to.

Answer 3

Yes, I agree. The media puts too much pressure on women to perfect superwomen, particularly in regards to appearance. I am not a Barbie doll, nor do I ever want to be. I do know too many women who are size 0-4 who constantly diet and think they are fat. They want surgery to correct every single flaw. Many women today who are overweight and do the yo-yo diets expect to become these Barbie dolls overnight. I am proud to say I am not among these women. I have stretch marks and sagging breasts, grey hairs and (gasp) cellulite. Yes, I can stand to lose some weight, but I will do so in a healthy manner, such as making healthier food choices and exercise. I don't know if I will ever have children, but I would hope I'd do my best to balance work and family. Family, of course would come first for me. I would give up my job or change jobs if it took me away from my family too much. I don't know that it would be feasible to be a stay-at-home mom this day and age. If I could be, I'd probably want a part-time job that would give me a few hours each week of adult time, away from my child. I could never be the perfect mom, but I would do my best. The best we as women can do, is balance to the best of our abilities.

Answer 4

I'm only 21 but I already feel the pressures you've stated above. I don't feel like I live up to the idea of an "ideal woman" and fear that I never will so I put a lot of pressure on myself try to become that woman and I don't think it's making me any happier. Society really does expect a lot from us. Even though I don't have children yet, I appreciate your stretch marks comment. I wish more guys can see it the way you see it.

Answer 5

Yes... I do think that it is alot to handle with having to look young, be pretty and skinny and all of that but I definetly think women can balance a career with a family... plenty of women do it... it is difficult so that is why these days husbands are helping their wives manage the house that makes it a lot easier for a woman to have a career none the less there are single moms who keep up their apperance, carrer, family and finances without a man in their lives.. it may be stressful but they do it

Answer 6

NOW you are making sense, Sandstorm!!

I earned my degree, chose to stay home with my 3 children because I knew no one would love and care for them like I could (and my husband was behind me), I homeschooled them for 3 years and now that they are all in "regular" school-- I work during school hours.
That allowed me to be the best I could be at ALL aspects that were important to me, rather than dividing myself up and not able to be great at everything I did.
And yes, I have a ton of strech marks-- but its just part of having my wonderful children.

Answer 7

I dnt like it. Women can do just as well as men if not better in some cases. I feel dat men r sometimes intimidated by a strong independent women but da way I see it is if she can hold her own then why not, men dobt be intimidated u should be proud n thankful if u have a women such as this.

Answer 8

i'm glad there is someone out there who understands how pressured women are. Just because not everyone looks like a celebrity when they are older they can still be beautiful! and women don't need a man at their side...they can stand strong alone!!!

Answer 9

I feel ok in my own skin and how i look so i really don't acknowledege that pressure at all... but i'm sure there are many who feel this and it is the fault of the media at the end of the day.

Answer 10

Oh thanx dude its nice to know that there are decent ones out there. But I dont feel pressure at all really cause I dont give a fcuk what ppl think of me, I dress weird,funky and I love it well of course I would Im 20 going on 21 ARRRGGH!! But nah I dont think so cause to me its part of multi-tasking as much as you can hehe I dont wear make-up b\c I believe natural is good PLUS I dont suit make up really. I wear lip gloss & eye liner and sh!t but never foundation and sh!t its like fcuk that sh!t aye. Anyways... as for the stretch marks yeah I dont know if I'll ever be able to see them as beauty marks but I'll try hehe.