Ok, so my husband wants to have girls who are friends...a few a work in particular. He is saying (now) that I can be friends with the one that I stopped being friends with (because he got upset about it and thought I was cheating with him) but I feel like he is only saying this to continue his friendship with these girls. The problem is my friends has enough respect for me (as a friend and wife and mother) not to call me or text me at all hours of the day and night. I want to be only mad at my husband about this but I am really angry with these girls. He can't even seem to have one night out with me without getting a text and then he fakes going to the bathroom so I don't see him text back. My husband and I have been having problems and we are working things out and they are getting better (slowly) but I really feel that these girls are seriously putting a damper on things. They don't want anything from him but having fun.
2007-05-06 00:28:27 · 5 answers · asked by superwmn315 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They won't ever have expectations with him except to hang out with them. I, of course, being a wife and mother will always have expectations not unrealistic ones though, and I feel that because I do that's why he wants to be their friends because they don't need anything from him except for friendship. But i tell him friends do that...they love you for you, but when can I expect that as his friends they should respect that we are having problems and stop bugging him for awhile and not only that but is it wrong to expect my husband to say something? I just hate that these girls feel like they are a part of our lives not just a friendship, I feel like I am sharing my husband with them and I want to say something to them. I know that they know about our problems...would I be completely out of line to talk to them...I know that they can't be so stupid as to no realize what they could be doing. Am I crazy for wanting these girls to disappear for a while so we can fix things? Help!!
2007-05-06 00:33:01 · update #1
screw it, I say...
Tell him to choose..
2007-05-06 00:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh, the stupidity of youth.
Husband has already displayed that he cannot handle your getting attention from guys. Now he is willing to offer that up
so he can pursue other women.
That is some seriously convoluted thinking.
The problem you both are having is that you are not willing to set aside these diversions. Neither one of you can handle the consequence of infidelity and it will rip what's left of an already shaky marriage apart.
Both of you either need to stop with the games and friends ,or, just go out and have that affair. When he finds out it will reduce him to a whimpering mass of goo . Or, he may flip out and beat you before the cops arrive.
Quit with the games. Set some ground rules that includes stopping the contact with " friends" of the opposite sex. Get back to work on your marriage.
Or keep this up and become yet another divorce statistic.
2007-05-06 00:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'd be kinda pissed too. Hightly inappropriate. Especiallly with the secret texting. You guys need to talk together, lay down the law and establish w/ what is going on w/ your relationship now. Like it's not going well, introducing new people into it only divides your emotinal attention. If necessary, go talk to a professional about. Don't wait, things just get worse. I agree, it's only o.k. from him just b/c he's stringing these girls along and has his ego stroked by these girls. I wouldn't like it either. You're supposed to be his best friend. He don't need anyone else.
2007-05-06 00:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your marrage is in trouble. He has to choose. I would get some help. Maybe legal help too. Good luck.
2007-05-06 00:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is cheating on you. if not physically then mentally. You both need therapy
2007-05-06 00:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋