Guy advice?

Question

I guess I what you'll call a nerd lol cuz I've never had a bf and I had my first kiss when I was 7 and haven't kissed since then (sad I know).
I 15 and graduating from high school, and I'm finally going to be free and I want a bf, problem is that I'm afraid that he might be tured off since I don't know much about relationships (is that true?)
Anyway my bff was telling me that she gave her bf a ******** (bj) (she's 18). and she said she got *** (seamen) all over her ewe.
I would like to know:
1. How do you learn to kiss a boy
2. How do you give a bj without getting *** on you
3. How do I get over my fears
4, There's a guy I like but I'm not sure how old he is, he's really cute and I don't know how to talk to him. We've smiled at each other but I think if he were interested in me he would have talked to me help.
Any other advice will be appreciated ty

bj - blo w-j o b
C u m - seamen

sorry for the space but it won't show up

Answer 1

hey love I'm 22 and I've not kissed a girl before Wait until you are married or meet your one true love so
wait baby girl

Answer 2

Your 15 years old and shouldent be intimidated buy boys to give them what thay want, and thats what it sounds like to me that some body is pressurring you to do things you dont want to do. If thats so, then dont do it.
Kissing will come naturally, and you will learn to kiss better as your relationship goes along. You will learn to toung kiss as well and some woman and girls dont even like toung kissing.
If your going to give some boy a BJ then make him use a Condom, any sexsuale encounter you should all ways use protection as the most comman sexsualey transmitted deseace a girl gets these days is Clamidiea and it can make you syerile.
To get over your fears, you are not ready and would be better if you waite a little longer.
Be care full of the guy you like as you are 15, and if he is 18 and over he would be in a lot of trouble. Good luck.

Answer 3

No you are not what I would call a nerd. You are a young intelligent woman who has enough self respect to wait for the right guy to come along. Doing "the works" shall we say at your age is very young and of course it is going to be scary as hell. Take your time. Love and respect within any relationship builds trust and with trust you can voice who you are, what you have previously experienced-in your case nothing and that you need a guy who is going to take it slow and be patient with you. Giving a guy all the pleasures is not what doing it is all about. You have to get you bit as well. The right guy will understand this a take his time and show you the way. The rest will come naturally and in time. Enjoy your youth. Don't give yourself to whoever shows an interest. You are worth more than that. Explore and experiment at the level you are comfortable with.
Best Wishes and Good Luck.

Answer 4

If you are really into someone, kissing will happen naturally. The guy you like probably likes you too if he smiled at you. Guys your age don't usually go around smiling at girls they don't like. Most likely he is just as shy as you at approaching you, or perhaps, like me, you come across as unapproachable. Take a good look at yourself, do you try to be so cool that people assume you wouldn't want to know them? Perhaps you know someone who knows this guy. You could ask them if he is interested in you? No doubt the fact you are interested will get back to him and maybe give him encouragement to talk to you. Give him opportunities when you are alone (that is, in a safe place like say within the school grounds, etc) so he doesn't risk getting teased by your girlfriends or other guys.
Regarding question 2. That is just plain sad. You are not going to want to hear this but the fact you even ask this means that you are too young to even be contemplating this. Not only too young, but you are not in love yet. Why would you want to give a bj to a guy unless you've been with him for a few years and really trust him. The last time I checked this sort of activity was illegal for under 16yos and god only knows its a chore when you are legal. FYI its up to the guy to prevent this happening, but young men like to *** all over the girl as a way of degrading her and so they can tell the other guys about it later for a laugh. DON'T put yourself in this position.

Answer 5

I think if you are over 26 and with not experience it can be worse (think My Big Fat Greek Wedding, it actually does happen to women!) so being only 15 you've got a lot of time to fit in.

Some men like virgins because of an old belief that women should be pure (although men can get away without that). Kissing a boy is a learning experience in itself. There's really little way to mess that up...you just press lips together and maybe a bit of tongue here and there.

If you don't want semen over you while giving a bj...make sure he's verbal about it so that you can prepare to pull away or whatnot...Or you can swallow.

Getting over your fears is a natural and maturing process. Everyone goes through it. Just have confidence and understand you've still got plenty of chances to make up any mistakes.

As for your crush...there's nothing wrong with approaching him and asking him bluntly...although I would understand you might get nervous since it's a guy you find very attractive. Pretend that he's in his underwear...you'll like it!

Answer 6

Learning to kiss a guy just takes practice. Your usually fine as long as you don't don't bite or try to suck the face off of him.

Getting over your fear is not an easy thing. But you just need to build up your confidence. Talk to people and I know it sounds vain but stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself all the good things about yourself and how your not gonna let your fears ruin your life. You only get one don't waste it worrying about what is gonna happen anyway,

As for the guy you like. If he's smiling at you go up get a converstation starting. Find some common ground at let things flow from there. Guys are idiots when it comes to that kind of thing.

Over all be confident and if your not pretend to be. You have to show people the real you. Then if you need to have a fit afterwords.

Answer 7

I know you probably don't want to hear this, BUT anyone that you have to give them oral sex just to get their interest in NOT interested in you as a girl friend.

Of course you will find takers if you are willing to offer sex, but it will not give you a boyfriend. You will just be know as a girl that's willing to do those things. Yes you will get more attention, but it that the kind of attention you really want???

I think you need a huge dose of self confidence!! You do not have to trade sex for attention. Be yourself. If there is a guy you like.. go talk to them. So what if you find out he doesn't like you. What's the worst thing that could happen?? Learn to realize that someone would be lucky for YOU to notice THEM!

You are not ready to have sex or give BJs. Do not listen to the swallow /don't spitters that will post in response to your question!!! Be strong and don't cheapen yourself just to be noticed.

Answer 8

just be urself and let ur bf know that u r a novice in this if ever u get into such a situation.
i am sure every one will understand
just relax and get on with what u think is good and makes uhappy

Answer 9

sex ia a natural process and u dont need formal training for this activity.......... normally guys know about it and they would guide u accordingly................ just follow the natural rhythems of sex as it advances

Answer 10

do not rush into this....sex is not the answer..you are 15...unprotected sex ..oral and intercouse can get you HIV....any girlfriend steering you to this is no friend...talk to your parents....wait wait wait...it will be worth it....