my wife had our child 2 years ago and ever since she doesnt want to have sex any more . is thereany females out there in the inland empire that can help me out?
2007-05-05 23:55:43 · 8 answers · asked by phillip s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women do have a fear of becoming pregnant again too soon after baby,especially if they had a difficult experience.
A women can get put off but 2 years is too much time.You both have your needs ,Why havn't either of you looked into this matter earlier?
I can advice you to get her checked up because it looks like an underlying problem lays unsolved and you have to look for it before it's too late.
Some women who get depression do get problems like these.or on the other hand if you dont mind me asking how is your relationship other than that with her ,is it still a normal husbund/wife relationship?
Do you think She's hiding something from you?
I went through the same problem I was too scared to fall pregnant too soon after the baby but I could just tell my hubby how I was feeling.You both need to talk .Let her know you worried and there should be a way to solve it together.Surely She understands that you have needs even if she is happy with the situation.
2 years !!!!!
gudluk!!
I really wish all the best for both of you .
2007-05-06 01:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my last child 3 years ago, and am very take it or leave it now. But that just will not work in a marriage/relationship as I've found out with a very cranky hubby, though I take some comfort in the fact that there are alot of women out there that feel the same.
So......it was time for a long heart to heart. I explained to hubby that it wasn't him, that I really think it is just me(medications,depression and physical illness), we've been together for over 10 years and I've been completely faithful, but was just stuck in a rut.
And I asked him what would be suitable(how many times in a certain time frame) and he told me what he thought and I am doing my best to give him what he wants(we came to a compromise). But, it's not all one-sided. I have said to him that if he wants 'woohoo', then I would like the favour returned. More cuddles and attention, I want him to see all the different sides of me and to feel special and appreciated, not just a piece of meat.
I also said it'd be great to have a little experimentation, just a little something different to spice things up. And it takes time for a situation such as this to become better, but my hubby and I are getting along alot better now, we're getting what we both want and the marraige feels great to us both.
2007-05-06 00:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Shivers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexless Marriages
Are you or your partner just not "in the mood" for sex on a regular basis? Sexless marriages are an undeniable epidemic, says Dr. Phil. And since sex and intimacy are a meaningful part of a relationship, loss of sexual desire can severely affect a marriage.
Is the lack of sexual desire a biological problem, one that is lifestyle generated, or is it a symptom of a bigger problem?
Try to identify the causes in order to understand yourself and your partner, and keep in mind these factors that could be impacting either of you:
Biological changes (in both men and women)
Depression
Children
Lack of energy, fatigue
Sleep deprivation
Lack of respect or trust in a relationship
Jealousy, resentment
Loss of self-esteem
2007-05-06 00:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much are you helping your wife with chores around the house and with looking after the baby?
You will find that if you improve in that area, she won't be so dog tired at night that sex is the furthest thing from her mind.
2007-05-06 01:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a long discussion with your wife about this! Maybe she is afraid she may get pregnant? She probably doesn't want to go through that again! Why did you wait this long to complain?
2007-05-06 00:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out the reason for her to say no first then work on it to ally her fears she may have developed post pregnency and delivery
just go slow one step at a time as u have already wasted 2 yrs ..lol .. now dont try to rush
2007-05-06 00:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not bee serious, 2 years???
are you sure she is not getting it elsewhere herself?
or is she just not into guys anymore??
You have an issue you need to get resolved with your wife, if this is really true...
2007-05-06 00:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the meaning of help.... As your question could be misconstrued...
Not that I am offering LOL.
2007-05-05 23:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by E15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋