my friends usually hurt my feelings...should I let it go and keep it in my heart?
2007-05-05 19:48:00 · 25 answers · asked by zelisia21 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The most important thing is to get the better of your sensitiveness. See that your skin is not flayed too often. Make it a bit thick. Moreover, do not take things to heart so often. Laugh if off.
2007-05-13 06:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are KILLING YOURSELF by allowing your friends to hurt your feelings. Even if you think are a weak person you need to draw the line in the sand and make it clear to your friends what they can and cannot do. If after you tell them very clearly not to do something, they keep on doing it, then they are not really your friends. There are tons of people out there who will completely respect you as a friend.
Its about forcing yourself to speak up in order to stop allowing yourself to be hurt even more in the long-run. People will respect you for it and it doesn't matter how weak you think you are.
Even as an adult, sometimes my friends cross the line. I clearly express that and *make sure they know I'm not joking*. Usually, I just make a face and say "Could you not do such and such!" and because I'm probably just as shy as you are I hate doing it, but I can't pretend I'm happy when I clearly am not because that would KILL ME! Because they are my real friends, they either stop doing it immediately or don't do it the next time. And if they did continue on, they wouldn't really be my friends!
2007-05-06 02:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Citizen80285bnz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried examining your inner self? You might just be like a person who is so sensitive that he/she gets hurt by every little thing. In that case they might not even be aware that they are hurting your feelings. On the other hand, if they usually hurt your feelings (if you're not a sensitive person), the best thing for you to do is let them know that they're hurting you. Talking things over with them will make them realize what they're doing to you and this will ease your burden of always feeling hurt. This will lead to developing trustworthiness and closeness among yourselves as friends.
2007-05-14 00:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Basang Sisiw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, no. Let it go and move on. If you want to be happy--be happy--that's a choice just like chosing to be sad and keeping the sorrow always inside.
2007-05-06 02:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by spacebuff2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't keep it inside you. Get rid of it any way you can - cry it out, keep a diary, talk to someone you trust. And DON'T allow people to continuously hurt your feelings - they don't sound like friends at all.
Carol Brunette said, "When confronted with a foe; bless him, praise him, let him go."
She meant that when someone hurts you, smile, nod your head and walk away. Don't take the hurt with you, and don't let it sour you - LET IT GO.
2007-05-06 02:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by ohhnicholas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people will hurt you because they can.If you let them hurt you they will keep doing it.You may not be able to get away and completely change your life.But it may be what you need.Use your sorrow for an education and learn to avoid making it worse.Try not to hurt your self or others
2007-05-06 03:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by stratoframe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorrow can turn into anger and resentment if its not dealt with. I think you deserve to feel good about yourself. Do your friends even know they are hurting you?
Always remember:
What you posses-possess you!!!
2007-05-06 03:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these people actually are your friends, they would not intentially hurt you. Even if you are overly sensitive, you should still tell them whenever they treat you i a way you find offensive or hurtfull. If they do not respond in a manner that you find acceptable, they are really not your friends, and you should not associate with them any longer. If they don't respect and accept you for who you are then you can just find new friends who do.
2007-05-13 10:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't keep it in your heart. If someone hurts your feelings, go ahead and tell them that you are hurt. This will help you in having good and healthy relationships all your life.
2007-05-06 02:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by GiGgLeS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, let your sorrow show. That way, people can notice something's wrong and will probably help you in some way.
2007-05-06 02:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mang Pedro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋