Does real love between married couple exist?

Question

hello
im just asking this question because my parents make me doubt the true love between married couples.
They often fight, argue, and dont agree with each other. They get along together sometimes, but that's really rare. They are sometimes abusive toward their kids and each other, and seem to stay as a couple only because of their kids, meaning my younger sister and me. I'm 17 and she's 13.
Im worried about them and myself, becuase I find myself not believing in true love between marriage these days.. whenever I see a happy-looking couple, I doubt how much they love each other. Or if I'm going to get a man who really truly loves me.

Answer 1

Your parents are a great example of what kind of marriage NOT to have. Learn from this. I did, and now I'm very happily married. Real love can exist between two people in marriage, but it has to exist with respect and compatibility.

Answer 2

Look girl, you're parents are the same as a lot of people, but there are others out there like my husband and I that don't fight, cause we have a lot of respect for each other. From what I hear these days, we are not typical, but that doesn't mean that you can't find someone who will respect you when you get old enough to marry and have a good relationship. Just always remember that when you marry, that you don't own that person, and that you can make a marriage work, even if you keep your mouth closed when you want to make a smart crack about what he said. Never forget to show him respect, and to keep the communication going. You have to be good friends that talk for it to work. Love, trust, respect and communication. Write it down and find a guy that agrees with that, and you just may have a better marriage than your parents do. Good luck for your future dear!

Answer 3

True love does exist but how long it can last is a question. I believe your definition of true love is a perfect relationship where 2person always smile at each other, loving, caring. What you described about your parents is very common in a long term relationship and it doesn't have to be in a marriage. No matter how deep is the love you can't escape from argument. How severe the argument can be depends on individual's character and also method of argument, eg: fair fight or not. True love will last if both parties work on it and it is not easy. I'm sure you'll find a man who truly loves you. To me, it's important to understand yourself first before you can identify who you really want or suits you.

Answer 4

You know... that is the type of marriage not to have, what your parents have.

After time of living together, fighting and arguing and hurting each other, you tend to get resentful. You start to dislike your spouse and fail to loose sight of your marriage and not work on it.

Now, they are taking out the frustration and anger out on the children. That really isnt fair to them.

You will get a man someday that does love you. Keep in mind that marriage is something that requires cooperation, goals, values, understand, communication, respect.. and if you do all those things, love will last the duration of the marriage.. which should be for the rest of your lives.

Answer 5

Love and marriage are two different things. If you want to be married stop loving it is easier to stay married. If you want love do not get married .Love is just a feeling which will past in time . It is a irrational stage of mind which will last only for 6 months after which reality kicks in and that what happens example " your parents". But believe me they are loving each other although they may not be in love with each other. Loving and being in love there two different things. Confused ,Sorry such is love you never know it is like a Russian roulette .

Answer 6

It can exist if both parties believe that the marriage is an entity in and of itself - which is larger and more important than the 2 parties.

In other words, there are 3 elements to the marriage, 1. the wife 2. the husband 3. and THE marriage -and the third is deemed by the parties to be far more important than any other element

Answer 7

Unconditional Love does indeed exist, especially in my house.

I'm 50 and my wife is 47, and we still feel like we're dating.

Too many people get married too young, before they really know who they are or where they're really going. Then, after a bit, they find they're on different paths, and no matter how hard they try, they can't get those paths to converge again. It leads to frustration and anger. The sad part, is the unwillingness to understand what is going on, and the selfishness that keep them from accepting what's going on, and refusing to change.

Answer 8

Believe me......true love DOES occur.........it is sad now a days how people fight and get divorced too much, but true love happens...........a lot of people are just immature when they decide to get married and dont really love that person..........im sure your parents love each other...fighting is just part of marriage.........i fight with my hubby all of the time!!

Answer 9

Me and my husband have been married for 28 years but been together for almost 30 years.We had a problem or should I say he had a problem meaning a stupid co-worker came between us for a whole but it was or she was a fat ugly mistake he made and dropped her like a hot potato.I'm his main squeeze and always will be.Yes there is true love between two people.

Answer 10

Yes it does being married is not easy but as long as you don't lose each other like husband and wife things could work out and love wont die i think that there's people that are so focus on their parents role that they forget on their husband and wife role i think as long as you don't forget what got you and him together witch is love then you would be OK i love my husband more now then before