what you can do to while your time inorder to forget whats happening around you?

Answer 1

Daydream. I think into the future, like..."sure this sucks now, but tomorrow at this time I'm gonna be doing...or "A week from now this will all be over." I do this whenever I'm at the dentist, or having a medical procedure done, or involved with a funeral, etc. The key is to focus on the future and ignore the present.

Answer 2

Hello Don_Asha,

You didn't give a lot of information about your situation, so it's difficult to offer suggestions that might be helpful.

To be candid, you CAN'T forget what's happening around you... you can only ignore it, deny it, or repress it. None of those are optimal choices because it isn't reality... and reality is where we live.

If it's a family situation where the adults are squabbling, there isn't much you can do, granted. But it is better to acknowledge what's going on even if you don't have the power to change it. Doesn't mean you have to get involved in it either but just try to be objective about what's going on and duck when you have to.

There are a ton of possible situations you could be in and most of them have slightly different methods for the best ways of coping with them.

Basically, if you don't have the power to alter what's going on, then you don't have the responsibility for it either. If it bothers you, find somebody to talk with about it. If the situation makes you feel bad, ask yourself if there's anything you can do about it. If there isn't anything you can do, then there is no reason for you to feel guilty or whatever bad emotion makes you want to hide. Whatever issues people have with each other is for them to settle.

I would only intervene if someone were about to commit physical violence... and then I would call the police. If people are going to behave that way, then they should suffer the consequences of their actions.

Hope there's something here you will find helpful.

Tara