I think Im really really ugly!?

Question

I honestly think Im so ugly, I get told Im gorgeous by all my friends and I see guys looking at me when I go out but I just CANT see it! when I see my reflection in a mirror or window I get this scared feeling and I pretty much refuse to take pictures because I think I always look horrible in them! Im naturally really outgoing but Im scared that when I do things that get attention people will look at me and see all my flaws! I need help! does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to help myself?! Its taking over my life!

Answer 1

Beautiful and ugly are only relative terms. I find I care less about how people view my LOOKS, I do, however, care how people view my behavior and personality. Just do your best to take care of yourself--be neat and clean; keep an upbeat and optomistic personality, then you ARE beautiful. If you are really self-consious about how you look, you could try consulting a fashion stylist and they could help you determine the best hairstyle, make-up, clothing style and color for you. Good luck, and remember, one person's idea of beauty or ugly is not always the same as another's idea of beauty or ugly.

Answer 2

It's good that you are really outgoing...
thinking you're ugly doesn't do you any good.
Besides, if a guy likes your for your looks
he then he doesn't deserve you. Try to look
your best to make yourself feel better but don't
do it to the point that it takes over your life!
It's simply not worth it. This may not help
but just realize that someone will think you
are beautiful. One day you'll find the perfect
guy for you who will fall in love with your
outgoing personality and your wonderful smile.
I've loved someones personality so much that
it didn't even matter about their looks, just
everything went away and all I could think about
is how sweet of a person they were...

Good luck! I hope I helped.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry you feel that way! Try looking at your reflection in the mirror and think about all the positive things that you like about yourself, such as your outgoing personality, and just remind yourself everyday about these positive things. If your friends and guys think your pretty than take it also as a positive thing. Just tell yourself that no matter what your pretty in some special way. And just try not to worry that much because nobody is perfect and everyone has something about themselves that they hate. I really hope that helps =]

Answer 4

No, it would not recommend you're gruesome. it ought to no longer also be about you. when you're over it, then it truly is time to bypass on and look ahead. you're 17 and there is so a lot extra to life than men. do not enable this one convey you down. do not base your youthful years on relationships, this is the style of waste! bypass out together with your acquaintances, savour being an adolescent formerly authentic life slaps you interior the face and all you should look ahead to is your morning Starbucks formerly paintings. do not difficulty about the way you could act round him. Act like he's no longer there, till he says hi, then be polite. upward thrust above the petty intense college B.S. and savour the sturdy stuff at the same time as you could. It would not very last always and neither will this. this may blow over. enable it. And once you've him on your Face e book now's a sturdy time to make your self ordinary with the delete function! :)

Answer 5

What is ugly? I guess I have always had trouble finding anyone ugly. People that I hear refered to as ugly I cant seem to see them that way. Maybe because what I see is the beauty that each person possesses whether they see it in themselves or not. I'm thinking that somewhere in your past a person that was jealous of you or just plain mean called you ugly. That word has stuck in your mind. I have been called ugly by some and handsome by others. I choose to let people think what they will. When someone says mean things I try to see what really makes them say that. The problem is within them and not me. So I just feel sorry for them. To say negative things about yourself or others means to me your not really that happy with yourself. You are projecting it to your outward appearance. Try to think of what is really bothering you. Once you find it then deal with it in a realistic manner. If its caused by others hurtful words then try to see that they are hurting inside or they wouldn't have said it to you. If its something worse then seek counseling. I really don't think your outward appearance is the problem. Dig a little deeper in the well. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

I have the same problems as you do, so I completely understand. I bet the people that you know don't believe you, right? They think you are bullcrapping and you are honestly seeing yourself that way. What I do to make me feel better is get my hair professionally fixed into a new style, nails done, pedicure, and buy a new outfit. I treat myself, it usually helps when I'm really feeling ugly. Also I recognize my good qualities about myself instead of the superficial ones and learn to appreciate them. I hope this will work for you as well.

Answer 7

Begin by picking up a few books on self-esteem. That many people won't tell you they think you are gorgeous if they don't. But self-esteem does not come from others, you have to work at it. You have developed a bad habit that will come back to bite you. When you tell your friends you don't like how you look, but they feel differently, you are telling them you don't value their opinions. Keep that up and they will pull away from you.
It sounds like there is something else going on that you don't want to face, and subconsciously, your brain has switched your looks for the real issue. Ask for counseling. The counselor can also help you select good self-esteem books, too.

Answer 8

I was just talking to my sister this morning about this! We always felt sort of that way, but when we look back at pictures years ago, we realize how cute we were. Then we think ... well if I thought I was ugly then, but I was actually cute, that probably means I'm not too bad looking now. Ten years from now I'll see my pictures from 2007 and think, what a looker!

Answer 9

I had the same problem. Look in a mirror and make a list of all your best features. If you still cant see the beauty in yourself try see what you dont like about yourself. Dont do anything that could hurt you, but try to fix them in a healthy way. Remeber that beauty is on the inside and that you are still you no matter what you look like.

Answer 10

We as people can be out very own worst critic. I really doubt you are really really ugly like you say, and if people say you are georgeous, then you are probably a very pretty woman. Don't put so much emphasis on looks, especially your own, and just try to tell yourself it's not that big of a deal and things could be much worse. It sounds as if you really aren't ugly, because if people say differently, then it's most likely the truth.