If being gay is not a choice, how do you explain more than 10,000 exgays?

Answer 1

"I dunno. How do you explain the 20,000 ex-straights?"

Then that means that sexual orientation CAN be changed. You just said something against your own arguement

Answer 2

Since I don't believe there's anything wrong with being homosexual, I don't care whether it IS or isn't a choice.
Frankly, I don't care if there are 50,000,000 exgays. I don't believe in your religion, and I can just as well ask you why there are billions of other people who don't believe in your religion, since it's your religious belief that prompts you to ask the question in the first place.

Answer 3

Being gay is not a choice they are born that way and where do you get your stats? And even if there was a valid stat and not from a religious group I still would not believe it. i would think that they are just fooling themselves. As you then probably also know that suicide is very high amongst gays and lesbian youths? If it was a choice then why would this be? At least I got a link to what I claim.

Answer 4

Being gay is usually not a choice--I do believe that some people choose it for various reasons that I won't go into here. But I believe that the majority of homosexuals walking the planet don't choose to be gay. Homosexuality is not exactly a walk in the park. Not with a world of hatred out there just waiting for someone to hate.

We are human beings and we, unlike animals, can choose to change everything about our inner selves in the blink of an eye and with a lot of discipline, we can even maintain that change. Therefore, we can choose to be (or at least act as if we are) straight. If that makes some gays happy, so be it. But this answer is pretty black and white. Ever read the Kinsey report? Do you know what's truly the norm for human sexuality.

There is no norm. It's not as if there are only the three categories of gay, straight, or bi. Those are generalizations. It's much more interesting than gay, straight, or bi. There's all kinds of shades of gray in there. The Kinsey Scale of sexual orientation: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

So what about those on the Kinsey scale who are closer to straight than gay? Not quite as hard for them to "switch" and commit, eh? And for those who are WAYYYY over on the gay gay gay end of the scale, well, they are very unlikely to switch, my friend, no matter how desperately they'd like to in order to conform with their church, their family, and with society.

How can you prove that all those ex-gays have completely freed themselves of all homosexual inclinations? You cannot. In order to maintain their committment to a straight life they have to deny that part of themselves. Great for them if that works for them. But how can anyone really know whether or not someone else is truly an "exgay?"

Turn celibate, with all your heart and soul, sometime and see if you are truly an exhetero or if you are just acting as if. You are going to say it isn't the same. Okay, so turn nonsexual and see how it goes. Oh, wait, you can't because you didn't CHOOSE to be sexual, did you? You were just born that way, right? Hmm... isn't that interesting? But you could fight it if you really wanted to, couldn't you?

Answer 5

OK, so then of those 10 000, how many would end up married? How many would 'go back' to homosexuality? How many would lead double lives? How many actually don't claim to be 'ex-gay' but rather lead a celibate life? And how many 'straight' guys do you know, who have been subject to such anti-gay propaganda in such a homophobic enviroment, would claim that they were 'ex-gay'?

I think that says it. Maybe try using an ACTUAL fact for an argument?

Answer 6

Not sure if I believe they are "ex" gays. I used to smoke a pack of cigs a day. I once quit cold turkey for two years. A lot of people referred to me as an ex-smoker and congratulated me for having "kicked the habit," but the truth was that while I was no longer physically smoking, I was mentally smoking every chance I got. Whenever I was in a room with a smoker, my eyes followed their cigarette the whole time. I could barely concentrate on what they were saying as I was mentally inhaling every puff right along with them and loving it. All I had to do was smell cigarette smoke on someone's clothes and I'd practically swoon! Eventually, I went back to smoking and finally quit for good with the help of hypnosis, but don't fool yourself that just because someone isn't acting on whatever particular feeling they want to get rid of it's because they don't have those feelings anymore.

Answer 7

There is no truth to that statement. The ex-gay movement is a huge scam, created by religious bigots. You have provided no proof, and your homophobia is showing very clearly.

Answer 8

I don't believe in "exgay" if you had sexual desires towards another man then went to a woman that's called bisexual.

Answer 9

The same way that I explain that "groups" high suicide rate and tendancy towards violent acts..

Brainwashing

Reparative therapy contributes to the gay suicide rate. According to the Center for Disease Control, gay youth suicide attempts are 4 times that of heterosexual youth. In Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender or Questioning Son or Daughter, Kevin Jennings associates this statistic with the stressors gay youth face, such as self-awareness of their homosexuality and fears surrounding coming out to family and friends.
http://gaylife.about.com/od/religion/i/ex_gay.htm

Answer 10

how about these so called exgays are lying to themselves its about time they started being honest

Answer 11

What is an ex-gay? A person who covers up his true self because he's pathetic? I'm straight, but being gay is not a choice. Saying your ex-gay is denying your identity