i know he loves me, shows me in many ways, but he won't kiss me, even just a peck on the lips....when i asked him why he mumbled something about germs.......not sure i buy that it is getting quite frustrating, i wanna be kissed!!!
2007-05-05 15:57:44 · 8 answers · asked by impatientmomma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been married 7 years this june, and he kissed me before marriage and after quite a bit, can't remember when he stopped, he lets me kiss him on the cheek, but acts really impatient like he can't wait till it's over or something......
2007-05-05 16:09:53 · update #1
yeah we have sex fairly regulary, and yes intimately. i do keep myself clean, but i take a medicine that can make my breath bad sometimes, but i brush and mouthwash alot.....if it is bad breath i think he would have told me, he would have just said hey honey your breath is bad, our relationship otherwise is pretty good, we have our problems but for the most part we are good.
2007-05-06 09:23:24 · update #2
That's strange... how long have you been married? I think I'd make him say more than just mumbling something about germs. Press him on this. Let him know how important it is to you. Maybe counseling is in order. Good luck
2007-05-05 16:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention if you two have sex regularly. If he's refusing to have sex and I'm talking about sex with intimacy, not just a quick bang, then I'd question how much love he still feels.
Does he wash his hands 20 times a day or obsessive about keeping his surroundings clean? If so, he may have a mental disorder about germs.
I hate to go here but....do you keep yourself clean? Bad breathe, smoker's breath, etc, can keep someone from kissing you too.
If you keep yourself clean, and he's not obsessive about germs and he's not intimate with you, you could have serious marital problems and should seek counseling if possible, before it's too late.
Before you assume anything though, just talk with him until you get a real answer. Don't let him "mumble something about germs" as you put it.
I hope this helps and good luck to you.
2007-05-05 23:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by tipigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give ultimatums you aren't willing to follow through with. You may not like his response to "I'll find someone who will" (unless you are willing to back it up) because he may be bottling up something. Did he kiss you before you were married? If he shows you in other ways... decide if you can deal with this one compromise and move on. Otherwise - you will have an affair someday, even if you aren't looking for it.
2007-05-05 23:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give him an ultimatum. If he cant/wont kiss you, maybe you should find someone who will.
Of course you're not serious. But it would be interesting to see his reaction. :)
2007-05-05 23:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to counselling together to find out what the real issues are. it's definately not about kissing you.
2007-05-05 23:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe OCD germophobic. Sign him up for marital counseling.
2007-05-05 23:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has obsessive-compulsive disorder.
2007-05-05 23:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When YOU kiss him does he reciprocate, or back off?
You do initiate kisses to him, right???
2007-05-05 23:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋