i have a fife mnth old son. every time i put him down he starts crying and wants to be picked up. some people say i am spoiling him others say i am not. what is your opinion on this?
2007-05-05 15:28:07 · 7 answers · asked by skysaphirre 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I say they are only tiny for a short time. I don't believe that you can spoil them. There is a reason they need comfort and if you do it now...You will have less problems later. They will feel more loved and secure.
Good-Luck :)
2007-05-05 19:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by sparksgirls6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a newborn baby. You can teach him to comfort himself. For instance.......put a silky edge of a blanket up to his cheek, Pat his back for a few minutes and say shhhhhhhh fairly loud but in a comforting way.
Get a sound machine.
Have baby in a craddle that rocks.
You can also rock the baby to sleep then put him down.
The baby is used to being held, then suddenly is placed on a cold sheet with no one holding him. Use a flannel sheet in the winter. But a teddy bear against the babys side so he feels like he isn't alone in the bed. Don't pick baby up immediatly when he fusses. Put in a pacifier and pat his back and sing or say shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Another idea is to dress and change the baby in bed before sleep. Use baby lotion and give the baby a soft massage......legs, arms, back and belly. Forhead and softly on the neck. This relaxes the baby. You can have some quiet sweet music on. Create a peaceful place where baby feels safe.
Think about being little and held and feeling mom's heart beat. Then placed on a cold sheet and expected to fall asleep.
Some babys are very easy to put to bed. Others not so.
You might be keeping the baby up to long and he is over tired and it is hard to fall asleep. A warm bath before bed is good idea. It is good to have a bedtime routien, which establishes something that baby learns that ends up with him peacefully sleeping.
If he is 18 months old and you are still picking him up when you put him down, well that is a problem.
2007-05-06 05:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my granddaughter was five months old, she never wanted to be put down but she was getting too heavy to carry everywhere. So I would put her in a portable stroller, inside the house or out, and push her along. She loved it, and there were turns and bumps along the way. She had a really hard time falling asleep on her own, and I learned that if I bumped the stroller back and forth and sang to her, her eyes would start rolling and she would soon fall asleep. I am not saying this would work with every child (she was somewhat adhd), just that it is worth experimenting to see what will work for both of you. Finding out what kind of person your child is, before he is old enough to tell you, does not constitute spoiling, in my opinion. There will be plenty of time later on to teach him independence and self-sufficiency. Right now you are just working out a good fit between your energy and his needs.
2007-05-05 22:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by RE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is crying when he is placed on his back or sides, and his cry sounds like anger or pain, he may have an ear infection. If he cries simply because he doesn't want to be put down, then pick him up. Why let him cry? Like the one person said, get a cloth sling so your hands can be free for little tasks. At five months, he can't be spoiled--there has to be a reason.
2007-05-05 22:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can "spoil" a baby. If he wants held, hold him. You can get a sling to hold him in at Walmart. Soon enough you won't be able to lift him :)
2007-05-05 22:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by sunny w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mabey he's not used to being put down
2007-05-05 22:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by caligirl2368 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are let him cry it will not hurt him in fact it will help strengthen his lungs
2007-05-05 22:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by bggarry 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋