Ok, so I was about to have sex , but I didnt feel the Hype, so I told her I forgot my condom, so I left home and ignored all her calls, I feel bad, so does this make me a homo? or is it nuatral? Girls no longer arouse me any more, should I try guys? prom is like 1 week away, and I need help!
~Confused~
2007-05-05 15:25:53 · 19 answers · asked by George H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Only you can answer that question. Why put a label on yourself? Just wait and see how you feel as time goes on.
2007-05-05 15:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how you feel. Are u attracted to men or have u ever been? What happened to you is how my cousin figured it out. He had a girlfriend for a while, and their first time in bed together he just wasn't excited. He's happy now and very secure with his homosexuality. Try it, why not? but only when you're ready. Don't rush for a prom cuz that sounds ridiculous. Figuring out who you are is not something you do in one week.
2007-05-05 22:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Gist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting cold feet, or not being turned on by a woman does not make you a homosexual. Do you get aroused when you look at guys? Other girls? Older women? Grandfatherly types? OK, that was sick.
Take your time, have fun and don't rush into sex with either gender.
2007-05-05 22:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if girls don't arouse you, Why don't you try boys? You would have the answer after doing it with a boy. You may end up liking it. I like its the best sex ever. Good luck and don't be afraid of experiencing everything.
2007-05-05 23:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lost In Translation 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
George,
CONTRARY to what the rest of these geeks would have you think just to justify their own confusion about sex, not being aroused by girls right now DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY! There are lots and lots of messages floating around through your psyche right now. Messages like, its okay to be gay; and you have to be attracted to girls or its all over, might as well just have sex with another dude.
Here's the deal. You just weren't ready to have sex yet. Its intimidating to do something you've never done before. None of us get any real instruction on how to do it, and if this girl was ready to boff you, chances are, she's had lots of other guys B4 and if you didn't do whatever she expected, she'd laugh at you or say something totally mean. You got to understand that girls who sleep around at your age are generally total selfish bitches. Its just a fact of life.
Plus, add the enormous pressure of being a virgin at your age and worrying about it getting around that you haven't DONE IT yet, will earn you more scorn from both sexes! I don't have to tell you how much a guy your age DOESN'T want to look or act foolish around his local peer group. They tend to be pretty unforgiving. But what you don't understand about it all is that they are just as insecure as you are about everything and if they can make fun of someone else, it takes the possibility of the spotlight being shone on them at least for a little while.
Heterosexuality is biologically the correct choice...it's how you were built. Ain't no babies coming out of boy's butts! Babies, propagation of the species is what sex is designed for, not just a handy cary-around play toy...although no one will tell you it doesn't feel really good to have sex. Heterosexual sex is basic to life, its an instinct, not a behavior.
On the other hand, Homosexuality, despite what all these other geniuses say, is a LEARNED behavior. That means its a choice, not an instinct...and also contrary to what all these other insecure geniuses will tell you, you aren't BORN a homosexual, there is NO gene that makes you want to have sex with guys. That is just a bunch of phoney hoopla theory, not FACT, dredged up and conjured up by the gay community to try to justify the fact that they just want to be different and make a statement. Just try asking any 500 gay men or women why they became that way. Many will say because they wanted to have sex and they had the most access to their own sex than to the opposite sex....others will say they were just hurt too many times by the opposite sex so they switched. Then ask each one of them if they are truly happy...
Now that's the big question....probably 98% will say NO. But because of habit, the inability to face their fears, or just the plane ole fear of being alone, they won't go back to heterosexuality.
So, to make it short for you....ask a hottie girl out to PROM. You don't have to have sex with her....its NOT part of the prom program. Really, when you get the program as you enter the prom, look at it....nowhere will it say, "After the Prom You MUST have sex with your date." Go to the prom, dance, talk, hang out, eat and drink, and have a blast and get into as many picthres as you can with your hottie date. You'll want to look at these pics when you get older.
relax...live life....don't try to figure this one out yet...you have plenty of time.
2007-05-06 17:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that this might just be a head game that you are unintentionally playing with yourself. just because once you weren't arosed does not mean that you are gay . I would sugguest that you still give being straight a shot find another girl perhaps you just need to wait for the right one to come along i believe that all people can choose to be straight its just that homosexuality is becomeing less and less taboo and more of a thing done to piss of your parents or grandparents
2007-05-05 22:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cass C 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Homosexuality is a sexual orientation and it is defined as sexual interaction and/or romantic attraction between individuals of the same sex. In modern use, the adjective homosexual is used for intimate relationships and/or sexual relations between people of the same sex, who may or may not identify themselves as gay or lesbian. Homosexuality, as an identifier, is usually contrasted with heterosexuality and bisexuality. The term gay is used predominantly to refer to self-identified homosexual people of either sex.
2007-05-05 22:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only gay if guys turn you on. Just because you couldn't get with the girl does not mean you are gay. And if you have sex woth a guy and like it, there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-05-06 02:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could be gay....but, then again, maybe not.
when i was in my teens and early 20s i was fighting very hard not to be gay. I'd get girls, and then come up with every lame excuse not to bang them.
God, I hated those days. Maybe, that's you...I dunno.
Actually, here's a little test for you, and if you are totaly honest with your answer, you may get the answer you are looking for.....when you jerk off, do you fantasize about a guy or a girl?
2007-05-05 22:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just listen to your inner voice.. What does your inner voice tell you when you see an attractive man? Or an attractive woman?
2007-05-05 22:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Engage Me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋