we have been together over 2 years, we have been through a lot, and we fighted and hurt each other too much, so 2 days ago I broke up with my bf, he was very pissed off, he said ok we should both move on now.
Yesterday I saw him on a dating website, when we were together, he suspended that account, yesterday I thought he might be there, so I looked up and I did find him there. The moment I saw his name on the screen, it hurt like hell. I love him very much, I cant accept that he is acting so fast, I cant accept he would hold another woman in arms instead of me. I couldnt help to call him, he turned the phone off when he knew it was me. So the whole night I couldnt sleep at all, I sent him lots of messages, I was like crazy...
2007-05-05 14:55:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You broke up. He can do what he wants. Move on.
You say he's moving too fast. How long should he sit around the house before he can breathe again?
2007-05-05 15:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK this isnt about you wanting him back because if you were back with him, you KNOW that it would result in fighting again. After two years you both learned that it simply wouldnt work. People are not supposed to fight in relationships. They are supposed to be happy .You are just upset since he is moving on and you saw that on the site. He is rushing too soon on the rebound and so he will not be able to know what is going on inside.You too have to move on but in a much different way than he. So now concentrate on being the best you can be, NOT finding someone. That means do your best in school or if you are not still in school, at your job, take classes, volunteer, study a new language , travel....Do ANYTHING but look for another boyfriend right now. Then after you have been with yourself for a while you will realize that you are a much better person for the experience and will meet and even better person with whom you will not fight. I know it is very hard, so go ahead and have some good cries, but then set a limit, start anew and try to believe me that you will look back on this time and be thankful you took this advice.
2007-05-05 15:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He kind of seems like he is playing you. I was with a guy who would do things like this, then deny them and then promise to make things better, which he'd never do. I'd go and see what happens. It's the only way you'll know for sure. Or even just ask him why he needs an account on a dating website? If he's looking for friends, he should just try myspace.
2016-05-21 05:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you're still talking about this guy. Get together with some friends and go out. It's Saturday night. Have a drink or two. If this man is on a dating web site so fast, that only means he's looking for any woman. Not you in particular. He's not thinking about you. Move on already. He's too old anyway. You need a younger man in the late 20's early 30's
2007-05-05 15:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by #1 Monkey Minion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels that way at some point in there life about someone. You obviously made the right decision about ending the relationship because, as you mentioned before, it was extremely unhealthy. Honestly, if someone broke up with me and I had a suspended account on a dating site, I'd sign up again. He's just putting himself out there- maybe he is experienced in having his heart broken and knows the best thing to do is to get your mind off it. When I was younger, I'd cry like hell and wouldn't be able to sleep like you stated, now, I'd move on asap. Yes, it would hurt. But I'd suck it up and get through. It happens. And even if you feel like you will never EVER get over it... you will.
2007-05-05 15:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by :-) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've done this with my ex boyfriend as well; sending him countless messages, knowing it probably looked crazy... It's a shame that he is so quick to move on. The truth of the matter is, he was probably looking to move on for some time, now, or he wouldn't be on dating websites already.
See yourself for the loving person that you are. Know that you gave it your all, and that you can't make him love you, no matter how wonderful you are. It's going to be hard, but breakups always are. If they weren't, what kind of love would that have been? You're a good person who obviously has a big heart. Don't waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate it.
2007-05-05 15:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by autumnstarsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, buck up! Pull urself together. That's not the end of the world. Move on. I know it's hard but u just have to! Dont let anyone ruin ur life, no one! I understand the feeling, I've been there. I wiped the tears and move on. Now I'm successful. Though I'm single but I have money to travel the world, do what I like, meeting rich people. I'm happy, my way! Who knows, I'll meet someone worth.
2007-05-05 15:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by ni2penang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu have a cute name, you've been through a lot... you need a break. Take it easy. Your tears are like April showers, that bring May flowers, your tears will be turned to dancing and joy again in the future. You will overcome. In the meantime, there are some things to study and think about... was it, is it "addiction", co-dependency, instead of love? it sure has all the signals of that being the case. Also, its good for you to learn something about managing life through times of loss or change...Elizabeth Kubler Ross wrote about stages of that experience, its good for you to become aware of them, to help you understand what you are and will be going through emotionally and intellectually, and help you through rough times to a better future. Hey, I welcome you to write to me too. Don't label yourself crazy, OK? You have a strong heart, and great capacity to love. Don't worry, be good, have compassion and respect for yourself!
2007-05-05 15:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by million$gon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him, and he tells you that both of you should move on,.......apparently he has and now you should move on as well.......you should have filled out an application out on that site for yourself to move....yes it takes time to get over a relationship......but it does get better.....Heck I would have hung up on you as well if your gonna call me and give me a time on the phone.........turn your anger off and move on and use it on something worth while in your life!
2007-05-05 15:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by jill b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are well rid of him.If he's already on a dating site,it shows he didn't care much for you or your feelings.
Don't call him again.He's not worth it.
Be strong and move on with your life.You'll soon realize it was for the best.
Find someone who loves and cares for you.There's lots of good guys out there.
2007-05-05 15:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋