my friend and i have had a weekend-er scheduled for about a month, but she just called me and told me she was lesbian. i told her i respected her decision, but now i am nervous for next weekend. i'm not sure who the girl of her affection is, and if it is me, i definitely would not want to spend a week of hanging out and sleep-overs with her... help!
2007-05-05 14:44:51 · 11 answers · asked by mexicanbanana22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me ask you a question...would you pursue a good looking, intelligent, funny man if you knew without a doubt he was gay? Not likely...I wonder what makes you assume your friend, who happens to be a lesbian, is setting up this getaway to put the moves on you...has she ever tried anything on your before? B/C the thing is, she was gay six weeks ago, you had no clue, and there was no indication she was attracted to you then, right?
It seems like you are afraid of the news, what it means, and how it might change your friendship. I hope, for the sake of maintaining the friendship, you talk to your friend, verbalize your fears honestly without being accusatory, and ask her to help you understand so you can be a better friend for her. Believe me, she is likely to need solid sources of support if she has begun sharing this with everyone. She is very likely to feel judged, ridiculed, and misunderstood by a lot of the people she thought were her true friends. Do you want to be one of those people.
2007-05-05 15:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by honeygirl0511 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and find out what's going on. If you're friends you should be able to share your feelings. Tell her you want to be sure there won't be any weirdness between you two during your outing because you respect her decision but don't feel that way yourself.
2007-05-05 14:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Snicker Poodle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how your friendship was before. if she knows u r straight, then she wished to clear the air. If she was unsure then she may have been testing the waters. The unsure part is where the gray area lays. and that is yours to answer.
2007-05-05 14:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are sleeping cross your legs and wear your jeans to bed just to be safe.
2007-05-05 14:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heads up! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why should that have any affect on YOUR life. ur straight & dat's fine. if she tries anything, tell her you respected her choice & now she needs to respect yours.
2007-05-05 14:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just go ahead and go stop being homophobic she's not a rash or something she's is a just a lesbian
2007-05-05 14:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it, she wont come onto you if your friends. If she does just say sorry i dont swing that way.
2007-05-05 14:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if somebody is a lesbian, dont get close to that person, because he or she might harm, you never know
2007-05-05 14:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if yuo want to be a les then tell here if not say we cant be friends any molre
2007-05-05 15:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by jcsenka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep a distance if you are not comfortable. there are two people with two different choices. you live with yours and she lives with hers. dont allow her to override your interest
2007-05-05 14:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by akos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋