My ex has a very strange personality....should I accommodate or push forwards?

Question

My ex has this big thing about wanting to "get comfortable" with me. This means to spend a long time taking the whole relationship at his pace and on his terms. Once he is comfortable, he can be devoted and caring. Anyways, that's the way the relationship worked before. However, this has made hard to restablish because things broke up with so much confusion...not exactly anyone's fault... but still......things had to be discussed, and he made that very hard with all of his demands for comfort.

Anyways, We have worked through some of the bigges tproblems; I don't think he's too pleased about this, but I insisted upon it...this is my boundary. You want to get to know me again: work on our stuff, and at least give me closure....However, he has recently gotten fed-up of talking about the past, and walked away. I am not mad...I actually need my space now, and I feel much better for what I worked through, and I like him more now than before. But should I say anything, or just let time pass

Answer 1

Many relationships are power struggles where one person wants to dominate the other.
I myself do not like these types of relationships.
I want an equal
I dont want to be intimidated by my girl nor do I want to be the one who is scary.
I want to feel like I can be myself, and I want to know her for who she really is.
I can still end up attracted to with care for someone who wants to control me. But after I see that there is no hope for them wanting to make it better I have to end it.
There is no sense in me trying to change them. People can change but they have to decide to do it for themselves or it wont hold.
I found someone who matches me so well in so many ways... we automatically get along and care for eachother without having to try. We have understanding and support eachother and encourage growth in eachother.
This is exactly what I wanted from a partner in living.
You seem young. Maybe you both are experiencing a discovery of what you really want through contrasting situations.
Life will decide for you if you are meant to stay together.
You actions are compelled.

Answer 2

it sounds like he doesn't want a relationship with as much talking and confrontation as you prefer. i would let him go and look for someone else. this is in a repeating cycle right now. let him go.