work meaning....a long happy relationship.
2007-05-05 13:37:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I doubt it, the one that is deep will want intellectual, spiritual, and philisophical stimulation, and likely get bored, while the one that isn't will feel stressed over someone making those sort of demands on them... neither would really be getting thier needs met, and would seek to have them met somewhere else. It's possible it could last, but it sure would take alot of work, if the differences between them are that pronounced...
I can tell you from personal experience that opposites attract, and for awhile it might seem like each makes up for what the other lacks, but in the end, it mostly ends up in alot of stress and fireworks, and people going off into thier own corners, at least it did for me, I was in a relationship like that....
2007-05-05 13:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you each understand one another, if he understands when the deep emotional thinker gets into his/her own head doesn't mean they're avoiding the other person. Surface people; it depends if they're just open enough to understand.
2007-05-05 21:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Karla Marx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should have similar values. For example, the girl can be serious and analytical, and the guy can help her lighten up. In this question, the word "surfaced" is used. What do you mean surfaced? If she is thinking about religion and he is focusing on any other topic but that, it will probably not work. The values have to be the same.
2007-05-05 20:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by chicky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have said "No" because you'd be wondering how they hooked up in the first place, and that the emotional thinker would want someone like them and the "surfaced" person would stick to someone who thinks like them to lessen confusin...but I think opposites can balance the relationship.
2007-05-05 20:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, the issue is not compatibility, but FLEXIBILITY! The key is whether you can be open and flexible enough to be with someone this different from you?
Regardless of differences, it can work based on one key variable: is the relationship grounded in a strong friendship? Absent this, most relationships are doomed over time.
Finally, yes, opposites attract; but, they also have among the highest divorce rates.
2007-05-05 20:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY... you just described the relationship between my lady and me... and we just celebrated 30 years of togetherness. We really do balance each other out...when I think too deeply she snaps me back to reality with one of her 'Surfaced' actions and we hug and make up. And when she lingers in her 'Surfaced' attitudes I snap her back with one of my 'Pearls of Wisdom' actions and we hug and make up.
2007-05-05 20:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes...I am a veyr deep and emotional thinker and my boyfriend just doens't think too mucha bout antyhing....i hate that..but we have 5 yrs.together and I still hate that..sometimes I just wish I met someone who thinks like me.
2007-05-05 20:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does surfaced mean?
2007-05-05 20:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it can work. You need opposites to balance each other out or you would drive each other crazy.
2007-05-05 20:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by Angela N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋