This is something that should be discussed before marriage and frequently during a marriage. What is healthy? In general marriage is a dynamic relationship - it changes over time. One couple might spend considerable time apart and another might be virtually inseparable. Major purchases or financial decisions need to be discussed. 'Freedom and independence' with finances can be either a disaster for both or one will be dominating the other. That's unhealthy. There must be a reasonable or acceptable balance in a marriage. Both should be contributing 100% to the marriage. Allowing one's spouse some independence shows love and trust. This is something to negotiate fairly and lovingly. That's healthy. When any issue leads to recurring arguments, resentment, jealousy, etc. that's definitely unhealthy.
2007-05-05 14:22:41
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answered by Mover50 2
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You never give up your brain after marriage. It is the free and independent thinking that counts for a person to mature instead of being blinded by different facades. Some people want to believe everything in the name of love, which is not true. Both the man and the woman should use their brains in the marriage and, ideally, work as a team to steer in the voyage of life. This is not easy.
Independent thinking does not mean selfish acts at the expense of the spouse. It means the person exercise good judgment in the time of internal and external troubles.
You use freedom and independence to mean grey areas where one can act irresponsibly without concern of hurting others. If the husband has a strong conviction that his mother is important part of his life, he can act on it without feeling his wife's irrational pressure.
2007-05-05 13:57:23
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answered by Sir Richard 5
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A moderate amount, but that freedom should be limited so that it does not impinge on their partner or the marriage. For instance, you should NOT have the 'freedom' to have sex with other people, but you SHOULD have the freedom to spend time with friends. It is also about moderation - - one night a week = okay, 5 nights a week, not so okay. The priority should be the marriage and keeping the marriage healthy and alive. Plus, you should be married to someone that you WANT to spend time with.
2007-05-05 13:44:48
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answered by Anonymous
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See, the hassle with the "properly, a brother and sister residing co-dependently would desire to savour an identical advantages" means that no 2 promptly human beings have *ever* abused the marriage device while they weren't in a romantic courting. yet a sibling couple doing so might nonetheless be legally "married"; they does not then, in turn, be allowed to marry everybody they have been certainly romantically interested in with out dissolving that partnership, with all the criminal issues a divorce would reason. I advise, i assume if a brother/sister pair (or brother/brother or sister/sister, have been gay marriage criminal) needed to circulate into right into a lifelong, non-romantic criminal partnership, specific, they might conceivably call for they be granted marriage rights. yet such partnerships could be fairly few and lots between, as i think of the social stigma of annoying you be allowed to marry your sister might probable suppress that team. A greater pertinent question could be on a thank you to handle the style of members in a marriage. If marriage is unfold out from the place that's now, then there is the question approximately whether polyamorous unions must be legally regarded. And if we then accelerated marriage to allow, say, 4 individuals, then what approximately polygamists who experience socially ostracized because of the fact they have a 5-way courting? Polygamists and brothers wanting to marry their sisters, whether, signify a tiny, tiny fraction of yank society. Homosexuals, on an identical time as nonetheless a minority, extensive style some distance greater suitable. beginning up marriage to same-intercourse couples, i've got confidence, is a thank you to grant those romantic pairings an identical criminal rights that are presently enjoyed via comparable partnerships, on an identical time as minimizing the exchange to the final device. specific, the "slippery slope" argument can nonetheless be utilized, yet basically because of the fact beginning up marriage to homosexuals might open up an even bigger can of worms does no longer advise it isn't any longer a good and suited element to do.
2017-01-09 13:46:03
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answered by ? 3
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You shouldn't lose your friends, your sense of self,or your family just because you are married. That means you will generally do things together, but you can have "time off" to go out with your friends, see your family, etc. Trust is an important element in marriage. If one partner doesn't trust the other, the marriage is bad.
2007-05-05 13:40:13
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answered by Wiser1 6
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You should give your mate all the freedom in the world.
If they are going to cheat they are going to cheat whether you give them freedom or not. If your relationship is not strong enough to weather some temptations enslaving them will not make it stronger.
2007-05-05 13:44:35
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answered by Anonymous
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well if you mean dating others ,haging with people that even makes things looks suspicious or gives people a reson to go back and tell something that may or may not be true(because you know how"people" are) then you should chill...but if they are controlling what you where what you do,when you go out, you talking to family and friends or anything that is unnormal and gets on your nerves thats not healthy
2007-05-05 13:40:16
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answered by cleanheart 5
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Complete,because there should be total trust in a relationship.If not,somethings not right,and you are waisting your time with that person.Time flys,and before you know It ,It's too late to date again and move on.Think about what makes you happy ,then go from there.and don't let anyone tell you that you can't do what makes you happy.
2007-05-05 13:43:59
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answered by sweeeetypie55 1
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freedom? what in the world are you talking about. You make marriage sound like a prison term or something. lol
2007-05-05 13:37:43
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answered by crash27_m 3
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some mutual interests and activities
some separate.
enough to stay connected emotionally etc.
to be close and intimate
but doing enough different things in your lives that you bring
fresh material in...grow as your own person as well as as a couple. different couples are connected to different degrees.
many places in the range "work" fine.
2007-05-05 13:38:37
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answered by Sufi 7
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