every day feels the same at the moment its been 3 months
2007-05-05 10:42:38 · 18 answers · asked by mooby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It took me around 2 years and I was the one who ended it. 10,000 miles distance between us also helped!
So...it's not easy and you still want to share things with them, new movies/ jokes etc. My advice? DON'T!
Even when he told me he had a new girlfriend after about14mths I cried. That helped me move on VERY quickly though! I met my [now husband] some 3yrs after I split with that guy and STILL had some issues, but now, after 5yrs marriage I finally let it all go.
10yrs is a long time with someone, especially if it didn't end badly, you just drift apart. If there's a nasty end the anger can help you ride it out, without that you're losing a friend and that's tough on anyone.
Hide away reminders & photos and forget about them, enjoy your life, it's too short to dwell on the past. Sit in a hot bath with a bottle of wine and cry it out when it all gets too much. But get on with life afterwards, it soon gets easier. xox
2007-05-05 19:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by SEJ71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ten years is a long time..longer than some marriages! It's going to take you time to get over it. You had great expectations and felt secure in thinking you had met the right one. Now you are shattered because all you knew and felt secure with has gone.
You need to take this a day at a time and be patient with yourself. The hurt and pain wont go away overnight but you can do things to help heal your pain.
Try and restart your social life and get out and about. Am sure you don't feel like doing that but you must. Staying in and moping will just depress you.
You ask how long does it take to get over it....how long is a piece of string? It depends on you and your willingness to help yourself!
Seek comfort and company with family and friends.
You will start to feel better in time.
2007-05-05 19:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not put a time limit on this. Just know that it will happen. Try to keep as busy as you can with things that don't make you remember the past. Give it as much time as it needs, but remember there will come a time when it does not hurt any more and you will realize that you are a better person for the experience.
2007-05-05 17:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by pattypat999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say however long the relationship was divide in half. That's how long it takes to get over. Unfortunately 5 years. However, no one is saying you have to wait it out. You'll be completely over it in 5 years and the relationship a fond memory but in the meantime get out, keep busy and before you know it you'll find your Mr. Right, or in the meantime, Mr. Right for Tonight.
Have fun with friends, take up a hobby, go out and find yourself, keep your mind off of your hurt, and before you know it you'll think of it less, the pain will dull and time would have passed.
Good luck honey, go out and get back on that horse.
2007-05-05 17:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Weimaraner Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you worked on trying to make the relationship work and it doesnt well, it's not that difficult to let go of that person. its more difficult to let go of the dream, the goals or the things you planned with that person.
like for example you have a job you like and you visualize the future, make a contious dream of how youre going to climb that career ladder, take classes to further your career etc. and then the company closes its doors, or there's a takeover or whatever and you find yourself having to get a new job.
this new job, you have new people to deal with, new position perhaps, but then eventually you begin a new dream with that company. the environment changes, you make a new road, a new dream while the old dream becomes a memory of the past. reality is in the present. not in the past. past is for learning to deal with the present and future.
2007-05-05 17:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there!! We were on again off again for 13 years. We have been separated and divorce now for 5 years and it feels wonderful!! You may still have the love for them but if it cost you who YOU ARE to be in the relationship, the price is tooo high!! The rollercoaster ride is not worth it--get off and get a life, the one you were meant to live!!!
2007-05-05 17:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by madebyheart6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Therapy! It will help you realize that you are independent now and there are other fish in the sea. Also that you will find someone else who is even better! Or it could turn out that your ex has realized that he cannot live without you and he may come to you----but don't go to him! and don't wait explore other options.
2007-05-05 17:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Capri8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is a long time. But you shouldn't stay sad or mad about breaking up with this person.You should get over this person really quickly and get out there again!don't let sadness bring you down.
2007-05-05 17:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hya i have just got out of a very long relationship and at first i couldnt bare not to be with him but eventuall yyou will get over him and find that someone u have been waiting for all your life and the other guy, well just ask him if u can just be friends
2007-05-06 05:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by kelly k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the formula is...
# of years together X degree of infatuation DIVIDED BY 2
so normally if 10 yrs, it takes 5
Divide by 100 if he cheats on you and you break up with him
2007-05-05 17:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by magnet4trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋