If the absence of trust is from a betrayal or deceit, what does a person need to rebuild trust with a person?
Can it be rebuilt?
2007-05-05 10:01:43 · 7 answers · asked by guru 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Based on Sylvia's response I would then consider when is it wise to rebuild trust and when is it wise to walk away?
2007-05-05 12:23:13 · update #1
It starts first with forgiveness. A lot of people seem to think that forgiveness is simply saying I forgive you and then moving on. But forgiveness occurs when you can bring yourself to empathize with the person who made the mistake and allow yourself to step outside of your pride. Samual Clemmons once said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance a violet leaves on the heel that has crushed it." If the person wants to trust again, then forgiveness is the first step.
The second step is to start acting like they trust again. Not locking into the trap of wanting to accuse all of the time.
If a person can bring themselves to do these two things then time eventually heals the wound. Just realize that the wound may heal but a scar will always remain.
So, it is possible to rebuild trust. But that lies within the person who has been betrayed. Sometimes a person is hurt so bad that they cannot bring themselves to do this and allow themselves to be vulnerable again.
If it is you Guru who has been betrayed and you love the person who betrayed you and feel like they deserve another chance then follow my advice.
If you are the betrayer, well my friend, unfortunately it's out of your hands.
2007-05-05 10:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by c_crum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, time. Sometimes lots of time.
I have 8 children of varying ages from 33 to 10. The oldest I wouldn't trust for very long and the 5th child, 20yo, thinks that if he lies to me for a long period of time before I discover how much he's been lying to me, then he doesn't lie for a week that things should be ok. All better. Yeah, right. Sometimes he thinks I should trust him after just a day and a half.
What does it matter how old the betrayal is, if I find out about it today, it is news to me. Just because it's weeks or months old to him doesn't make it all better for me.
It takes time and lots of it to regain trust. Mind you this: a lot of people CAN'T wait to regain your trust. They cannot and do not know how intensely they hurt other people and will get tired of waiting for the trust to build. They will go out and do it again or do something else that will lead to trust having to be rebuilt from the ground up again.
If you have been hurt, I wish you well. If you have hurt someone, I hope you are worthy of their rebuilt trust. If you are just asking a question for future reference, I hope you find what you are looking for.
2007-05-05 10:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by ladyofyorkies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe broken trust can ever be rebuilt.
There are people who have hurt or betrayed me whom I will forgive, but I can never, will never fully trust them again simply because I can't. Once you catch someone in a whopper of a lie, how can you not always take their stories with a grain of salt afterwards?
2007-05-05 11:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is really hard to get back and if you don't work at it then that will show that you don't care. sometimes no matter what you do it doesn't ever happen but at least then you can say you gave it your best shot. try not doing anything that is going to make them doubt you. i would give you examples but i'm not sure of the type of betrayal of which you speak.
2007-05-05 10:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by meow? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 14:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by okon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to trust there self first
2007-05-05 10:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can broken glass be repaired ?
2007-05-05 10:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by foxylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋