my dad is having an affair. what should i do?

Question

my dad started to come home late recently.about 3am almost every night and he won't stay at home during his holidays. i checked his phone bill and found that he is making 4 to 5 calls to china(chinese mistress is famous here) daily for 3 months and that cost him hundreds every month so, i called to that number and found out it belongs to a chinese ladies. she admitted that she came to my town before. i also saw photos taken in pub or night club taken by him. today i randomly check on the the night spots i know in my town and i saw his car. he saw me there too. he just acted dumb. my mum is suspecting him but she don't know anything yet. what should i do?

Answer 1

Your parents business is their own, not yours. You need to live your life and stop concerning yourself with theirs.

Answer 2

Stay out of it. Your mother is a smart woman. She will figure it out soon enough. I know you are losing respect for your father over this, but let your mother handle it if she can. Do not let him know you spied or you will be in big trouble. IF you feel you must talk to someone, talk to Dad. Tell him how disappointed you are in him since you saw him at the club and he saw you....and see what he says.

Answer 3

confront him . Tell him that he not only is disrespecting his wife but that is your mother and he's also disrespecting you as well. That instead of spending all this money on his mistress he should spend it on his wife by taking her out, weather to a hotel , restaurant , swing club, something. Because if he's bored with his love life maybe so is his wife.

Answer 4

Let him know you know. Expect serious relation problems with your family and know they are not your fault at all. Hopefully if he knows you know, it will shame him into either admitting it to his wife, or stopping straight away. It does seem as though he doesn't care if he is caught though, so show your sincere disapproval. Maybe he doesn't care too much about your mum anymore, but he hopefully cares about you. If he doesn't, well at least you will know where you stand.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for you.....personally I think you need to talk to him. You have seen it so its not like you are just assuming anything, plus he knows you know something......confront him but not on an angry level. I would tell him you know whats going on and tell him that he shouldn't lie to you about it either....tell him how it makes you feel and that you love him and your mum and that you cant go on pretending that you don't know, he needs to step up and end it and he needs to talk to your mum.....I don't think you should tell her though leave that up to him..... Good Luck God Bless I hope it all works out for all of you...

Answer 6

tell your mom, make sure mom knows what is
going on, just tell her no matter how tuff it is.
she has got to know the truth, the truth will set
you, mom and dad free...tell her everything...now
if she finds out some other way, and realized that
you knew about the affair too, she will really be
heart broken....tell her when dads away...drive
her to the clubs...etc...let her see the truth...

Answer 7

Talk to dad. You shouldn't get in the middle of this. This is between your parents. But tell dad that he NEEDS to tell mom about what's going on, soon!!!

Answer 8

Confront your dad about it and tell him that you know everything and that he can't do that to you and ur mom and whoever else is in ur family. Tell him how bad this hurts and that if he doesn't stop, ur gonna tell ur mom. Good luck!!!!!!!!!♥

Answer 9

Talk to him first.If he refuses to either give up his lover or tell your mum then you should tell your mum instead.

Answer 10

your mom knows, her husband can't stay out till 3 am without her knowing something. It's none of your business, stay out of it.