my wife claims to be a pagan witch, IS THIS HOW THEY ACT?

Question

SHE GOES OFF WITH HER FRIENDS AND COMES HOME DRUNK, SHE IGNORES THE KIDS AND DOES NOT HELP PAY FOR ANYTHING, SHE CALLS OUR SONS HOSPITAL BILLS MY BILLS AND SHE BUYS HER FRIENDS STUFF INSTEAD OF HELPING,SHE WENT OFF TO PARTY ON EASTER WHILE THE KIDS AND I MADE EGGS, SHE TAKES HER FRIENDS TO VEGAS EVERY MONTH INSTEAD OF HELPING WITH THE KIDS, SHE EVEN MISSED OUR YOUNGEST CHILDS KINDERGARTEN SIGN UP AND OUR OLDEST CHILDS SCIENCE FAIR, BECAUSE SHE WAS OUT WITH HER FRIENDS DRINKING, IS THIS HOW PAGANS ACT, I DONT KNOW BECAUSE I AM NOT ONE

Answer 1

Paganism has nothing to do with the way your wife is acting. She obviously doesn't know anything about paganism, she's using it as a scapegoat. Your wife is not a mother. She doesn't deserve the blessing of having children. You and the kids would be better off without her.

Answer 2

Her behavior has nothing to do with being Pagan. It has to do with the fact that she's extremely irresponsible. Divorce her, and forget about Paganism, because that's not what Paganism is about. Children and family, home and hearth are HUGELY important in nearly ALL Pagan traditions. It's almost universal, really. Note I say almost, there are no absolutes in Paganism. Pagans party, it's true, but the responsible ones choose not to have children if they want to spend their lives being party animals, or they wait till their kids are grown. I know quite a few of those and I have no problem with them. If she is using her religion as an excuse then know that that's exactly what it is, an excuse and don't put up with it. If she's not going to be a wife and mother, she doesn't need to be messing up your hearth. She wants to be single. Give her what she wants and may it bring her joy.

And don't stress the kids. No mother is better than a bad mother any day.

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you, and your children. Pagans do not behave in that manor and it sounds like your wife is a self centred twit. I would suggest to you to look up pagans on the Internet and find a group of people in the community that are pagan and ask them about their practises and beliefs and what they believe about family practises I am sure they can tell you and most are more then willing to talk to open minded people.

I would have to say that if I were you I would start recording the things she does make sure you get lots of proof of how she treats you and the children. And think about divorce your children don't deserve to be treated like that, and if nothing else if she does claim to be pagan and you talk to the pagan groups and community her actions if recorded may be able to get her kicked out and ostracized. I hate to be so harsh but you need to take actions to show her that hers are not acceptable and by the way most all the pagans I have ever met and been friends with were great loving people who cherished there husbands and children. Sounds like you got a bad wife

Answer 4

You cannot take how your wife acts and think that "all" pagans or "all" witches act the same way - just as I cannot sit here and think that "all" Christians or "all" men act a certain way.

If I were you I'd wonder why a Mother is acting this way. Why would any mother, pagan or Christian, acting in this irresponsible way? Obviously she isn't happy at home and has some sort of issue that should be addressed.

This answer is from a working pagan mother of two young children.

Bright Blessings!

Answer 5

No. But that is how someone who is either unhappy with who and where she is acts, how an alcoholic acts, or possibly how someone who views you as a sugar daddy acts. She clearly isn't up to the responsiblity of a marriage or motherhood, and both marriage and motherhood are very Goddess-y things to do. But that is not Pagan behavior, any more than it is Christian or Atheist behavior. If anything, one or the other of you wants to chalk up irresponsible hedonistic behavior on Paganism as an excuse for misbehavior on her part. Most Neo-Pagans subscribe to the Wiccan rede, an it harm none than do as you will. There is clearly great harm being caused to both you and your children, so if she wants to claim she is Pagan, then she clearly isn't getting anything out of it, or understanding it. On a more personal note, if she wants her freedom that badly, maybe you should give it to her, it sounds like you are already running the household by yourself anyway, and should have something better in your life than someone that treats her family that way.

Answer 6

This sounds like utter rubbish. I am an Occultist and keep a wide variety of Pagan and Wiccan friends, neither of which would condone a blatant disregard of the welfare of any children, not just their own. While I obviously can not speak for all Pagans or all Wiccans, in general I find them to be excellent caregivers and devoted parents.

From what I see above this has nothing to do with Paganism but more like an easy excuse to be careless. You should consider learning about Paganism and Wicca so you can discuss the subject with your wife.

Nobody ever wants to hear this but you should consider consulting a counselor. She obviously has an issue or issues regarding her relationship with your family that would be better suited with professional help.

Hails,
Silence

Answer 7

Calm down dear one. If this is a real question, then it certainly sounds like you are going through a very difficult time. As a Pagan Witch I can tell you that this is most definitely NOT the true behavior of a Pagan Witch.
She may just be using the title as an excuse for her behavior.Though why I don't know. I know many Pagan Witches and none of them act like that. Many have families and to them there is nothing more important than their families.
I think it is time to re-evaluate your partnership with such a person. Try to talk to her (though I'm sure you already have). Let her know how thoroughly she is ignoring her family. That is most definitely un"Witch" like behavior.
If need be see if she will go to therapy. Try al-anon for yourself and your children. And as a last resort make sure that you document her behavior beyond a reasonable doubt, then if you have to divorce her, make sure you get custody of your children.
This woman is out of control.

Answer 8

for starters most if not all pagan witch's (wiccans) would put the kids first (at least the ones i know). What you are dealing with and it as been mentioned hear many times over is a lazy, self indulgent, drunken, deadbeat. What parent, or mother for that fact would miss something as important as signing the kid up for kindergarten.

my suggestion would be to talk to her about it and if she doesn't want to maybe it's time to scare her video tape what she does, set up an intervention, take her to marriage counsling, what ever it takes because it aint just you that going through with it, it's also the kids and if they get the idea that it's ok to act like this when they are older then it's just going to repeat latter on.

it's really sad to her someone using a religion to justify the way that they act, when they act like this, my guess it's maybe the booze thats making her act like that, but i might be wrong.

Answer 9

Sounds more like a selfish b itch to me! I am a witch and I also abide by the Wiccan Rede, Do as thou wilt and in it harm none. That includes everything. Even ones self. I have found that the greater majority of Pagans and/or witches care more about others than they do about themselves. Especially when children are involved. It also seems to me that out getting drunk is very much against the Rede because she is not only harming herself, but she is harming the entire family. I think you need some counseling because this is certainly not healthy behavior. She needs help.

Answer 10

A pagan is still a person.

How about I go find someone from your religion who is a total jerk and then say, "This is how people of this religion act." You know, I don't think you would appreciate that.

Paganism is a religion at heart, or at least an alternate belief... if your wife does those things it is not because she is a pagan witch, it is because she is lazy and has drinking problems. Sorry.

And she doesn't sound like much of a witch to me. How is she supposed to practice magick when she is always drinking?