Why is life so unfair?

Question

why is life so unfair, i hate my life right now, its very hard, i live in an orphanage with 32 kids, im homeschoold at this orphanage and i hate it because the people here are so mean, i want out, i want to run away, but my brother keeps on stoping me, i have 1 brother in this whole orphanage place, i dont know what to do, can anyone help me, i dont get along with the other kids here, i cant handle all of this pressure, thanks to those who say yes to helping me out a bit with advice or telling me what i should do, im just so scared, the people here treat me teribly, i dont think they like me that much, so can anyone help me, i have no friends here, again, thanks to those who say yes to helping me.

Answer 1

COunt on your bro for support go out get a job it will get you out of the orphanage and you will earn a bit of money

Answer 2

You do not say where you are but if you do have internet access, there is a lot you can do to make life more bearable.

Is there any physical or verbal abuse to which you are subjected? Do officials / teachers at the orphanage beat you or even shout at you?

If so, know that they are not allowed to do so. Do a search for childline in your country, send them an email and tell them what is happening. Just go to http://www.yahoo.com and type childline and the name of your country in the search box, then hit the search button. The childline site will have a way to send an email.

If not, perhaps you just feel the need for connection with others, to have more friends. Look into communities on the net that you can join. Search for children who have the same interests as you but always do so only after checking with a responsible adult, such as a teacher or an official of the orphanage.

All the best,
Deepak

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy. Running away solves nothing - you will be taken back and the problems will still be there - and your carers will possibly view you as a nuisance. Best to face your demons. I wish i knew how old you are, but these are some suggestions:

1. you could ring Childline, who will give you advice on who to approach

2. You could ring the Samaritans

3. You can talk things through with your brother

4. Is there any adult you trust enough to confide in? Talking your problems through often makes them clearer and points to a way to tackle them. This could be a tutor, carer [surely they aren't all bad?], social worker, doctor, friend, relative if you have any. If there's no-one close, feel free to email me - I will try to help you find a way forward in the strictest confidence.

5. go to your local church - you have a right to do this and you cannot be prevented, and ask to talk to a counsellor.

6. remember that this is not for ever - do your best in your studies - this gives you the freedom to choose want you want to do later.

7. don't give up honey - you are not alone - you are on my prayer list.

Answer 4

in my view I dont think of this is is a race project, unfair lives happen to all human beings, no count the colour of our pores and skin. For me, it style of feels that basically approximately each and every thing has long gone incorrect and that i'm no longer the place i had to be at this think approximately my existence. presently, this week fairly, i became skipped over for my enhance and that they have got employed somebody 7 yrs my junior on a similar income (who has no journey yet basically a paper announcing she studied)... I fairly have been right here 3 yrs with 14 yrs journey in this industry......I artwork an hour early maximum mornings and pass away an hour previous due maximum nights, i artwork saturdays to maintain up! She arrives precisely on time or previous due and leaves precisely on time, a clock watcher! this is bigoted! purchase hiya, ive have been given a job precise... a minimum of that's what the optimist in me says.

Answer 5

I'm sorry life hasn't been fair to you so far. As the saying goes "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger." Lean on your brother through the tough times and keep you chin up. One day, you will make your dreams come true. Shoot for the stars and don't let the circumstances you are in now affect your vision for a perfect future. I know that seems easier said than done, but if you are willing to work hard to improve your life, one day it will happen for you.

Answer 6

What you just said was sort of sad. But I'm not sure if I can help you though. But why don't you do something you like to do to take pressure off you. You could even like draw or write stories. Or even write in a diary. But the diary doesn't have to be fancy it could even be a notebook. Maybe ask your brother if he has any ideas. But don't give up hope. Good luck.

Answer 7

you have a computer in the orphanage?
anyways why dont you try to be friends with everyone. i mean not to be rude or anything but you guys are the only people there why be mean to each other if you just gonna end being loners, unless you get taken away.

Answer 8

Life is never fair, honey. You just learn to get by. One thing for sure, though - you reap what you sow. Try being kind, patient, more tolerant, gentle, affectionate - it comes back, surprisingly in ways and times you least expect! You seem to be in a hard situation, but nothing in life is permanent. It can only get better. You just need to decide - see the good things that come your way. Its all perspective - you're free to choose that.

Answer 9

You could try ringing childline or something like that...? Social Services? They may be able to help relocate you and your brother, but running away isn't the answer... you may not think it, but you are lucky you have him to help you through this. Think of others that don't have anyone else? Think of the wasters on the streets... you don't want to end up like that!! Seriously!

Just try talking to one of the "teachers", one of the (if any) nice ones and see if they can help - but talk to your brother... It will help to have him behind you.

Answer 10

you don't say how old you are,I know friends brought up in orphanages and they have great lives now , in the end it will surely make you a better person.