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If someone could give me advice I would appreciate it. I had called 911 this morning to report my new neighbors had left their 4, 2 and 2 month old children unattended. The 4 and 2 year old were playing in my yard next to a BIG highway and when i told them to go home because they are too little to be outside alone they said that no one was home with them. after calling the police we found out that the father was sleeping in a back room and the kids didn't know. he was offended that i called 911 and I told him honestly that his kids are way too little be outside alone 20 feet from a major highway. I said that his son told me noone was home with them and that they leave him home alone alot. Not even 5 minutes after that conversation with him which I thought would fix that situation the 4 year was opening my door to come in. I have a huge yard and a big barn separates their property from mine but they act like what's mine is theirs. they bum money and once at 9 pm the oldest child

had walked from the highway where he was playing and knocked on my door to come in. since they are at least 5 years younger than my children i don't feel they should be playing with my kids. I would never leave kids that young alone for any period of time but they just take advantage of the situation that when my kids are outside they open the door and shove their's outside for my kids to take care of. They have been there one month and every chance they get they are leaving them alone outside. How can I stop this situation which worries me...something could happen to these boys...we live in farm country and migrant workers have been known to do bad things around here to little kids. the fields are litterally in my back yard. Their kids also constantly steal from my yard and the stuff is never to be seen before...what the h*** do I do here without being a total ***.

that parents are the ones bumming money for cigarettes... lmao not the kids

i think i should add that the kids aren't the problem here (i think the way I wrote it confused some people) They seem like sad little boys and I truly feel for them but it scares the heck out of me when they are outside alone. I tell them to go back into their house just so I know they are safe. I think the parents don't do anything with them and they are lonely which is sooo sad but my kids are older and already the parents said something about my daughter hitting their boy which she would NEVER do... she's too protective of kids... I'm not comfortable with the boys being entrusted in my care when I work from home and really don't know these people or if they would lie about something awful if you get my drift.

Answer 1

If you are concerned for the children, call Child Services.

Answer 2

Well as they say, you can never choose your neighbor. You're in tough place at the moment. Ofcourse you don't want to look nasty with the kids, though their not yours. But you don't like what/how the parents are with their kids. The kids pretty much need some lesson to respect other people's privacy and stuff. While the parents need to know their responsibilities as a parent and not just an adult.

It's really hard to deal with that kind of situation without stepping into someone's foot. All I can say is that do what you can do as a neighbor, be nice with the kids and every now and then show them or teach them some good values (who knows you might be their role model someday) everytime they drop by. Without pushing them what you want them to learn.

As with the parents, do a little chit-chat when you get a chance, as keeping communication open is good, and you can pop in a little something-something what's on your mind. Just don't keep your hopes high that things will change shortly. As it might and it might not.

You can always be nasty and close your doors for them. That's just another option.
Anywayz, g'luck!

Answer 3

It's ridiculous that you lend these idiots money, shake your head! And if your worried about the kids, call CPS about the kids. If you've tried talking to the parents about this and it has not helped and your still concerned for the kids safety, then make that call. Next, lock your door so they can't just walk in, lock your stuff up so they can't steal it and tell the kids they are not welcome to come over without calling or asking first.
Someone has to force the parents to actually parent these kids, if your talking to them hasn't helped, as I said call CPS and explain whats gone on and your concern for the kids...And stop loaning money you won't see again to the parents,

Answer 4

Next time the child happens to walk into your home, take the child by the hand and return him to his parents. If you happen to know their phone number, call the parents and tell them to come and get your child.

If all else fails, next time the child comes into your home, call the police and have them come to your home and return the child to their parents.

Do not at any time give the children money.

Answer 5

Just thought I'd pop in and tell you I have swingers for neighbors so it could be worse. I won't go into the details but they have kids and stuff goes on I have to see and its sh!t. I really feel for you, and I'd walk into child protection office and ask them. Please be kind to the children who are not at fault here. Good luck--I hate people lack of morality also.

Answer 6

Good for you. I would do the same. They are irresponsible parents who leave it on others to take responsibility for they themselves are selfish parents. I would talk to the authorities like the police and children's welfare agency. Never mind what the father says to you. He's just trying to save his so-called pride.
GOD BLESS YOU AND THE CHILDREN.
Thank you for helping.

Answer 7

well if u called 911 and child services didnt come get the kids im very suprised

Answer 8

The oldest child? What?

Answer 9

Patty G - good answer