well i dumped my babydaddy now we live together, it's like he doesn't care about anything we are having a little girl together and we have been arguing constantly since february this year 07'. i still got love for him cause him and i have been thru so much together and we still manage to get alone at times, it's like i am not working and he rubs so much **** in my face, well 1st no one wants to hire me, even though **** isn't good with us i want us to still be together and work it out,he's saying no but what am i suppose to do, i don't want to have to seperate our child because of us.do you think i am nuts???? i mean we have made it this far without killing each other i feel we can put our bs on hold for the baby sack but everytime i want to talk to him it is always a here we go again. it really hurts i am stuck at home all day while he is out with his boys or doing things for them and can't do not one thing for me n-e more that is....i can't go anywhere because family has turned there
2007-05-04 23:20:58 · 10 answers · asked by mommie to be 07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
backs on me and his family is the only one there for both him and i and the baby they seem to love me and his nieces and nephews calls me aunt which i am not... i was gonna leave but his brother and niece begged me to stay and his niece was crying it hurt so i stayed and promised her i won't leave they rather for him to leave than me... sould i leave us in single mood or work sumthing out like a relationship????
2007-05-04 23:24:53 · update #1
your child deserves to be in a happy living environment, you don't have to remain in a relationship with him for the sake of the child, he will be apart of your child's life no matter what, but sometimes parents are better off forming a cordial partnership while living apart than remaining together, you owe it to your child to bring her up in a positive environment free from fighting and arguments because if she is in this environment long enough it will start to affect her mentally as well as emotionally.....
2007-05-08 12:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a bad relationship. You need to get out and move on. If you continue to stay your life will get worse and worse. I've been there and got out and now know all the damage it causes for staying (stayed with him 11 years). Examples- sad all the time, withdrawn (even ignoring my son), started to not care about anything any more-basically depression!! Okay? Since I've been away from the uncaring dummy I have been so much happier. I cryed and missed him for the first few months, but it faded. I met someone else and seen how much better I should of been treated. Don't worry about the children. They will be okay- especially because you will be- and it will reflect. I really believe leaving someone that is not treating you right will make children see to not ever put with some one like that either. Just leave- you will heal.
2007-05-05 03:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the real question is, is he worth all the heart ache will he be there for you and your baby? I think you are saying he is not there at all anymore. it is better to have a complete family for your child however if you are going to be unhappy and unloved your child will also experience this with you. Don't you want a happy home for your child to grow in? If he doesn't change for the better when bubby is born I would show him the door and here is a little tip I find it much easier if I walk first it somehow hurts more if they dump me. Just remember your hormones are running a muck at the moment so think carefully see how he acts after the birth. Communication is the key and if you don't have it you won't make it.
2007-05-04 23:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only one in this situation, I here of so many people that are in exactly the same situation as you are. I though of forming a society of unloved mothers because that is exactly what it seems to be coming to. May I suggest something. Look around your area and see if you can find others that are in the same or similar situations, form a club or meeting and get together, Talk about your problems to others you will be amazed how that helps. Come on lass you can do this all you need is one or two folk to help.
AGONY UNCLE
2007-05-04 23:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by coofooman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its no good raising a baby in an unhappy situation, the last thing you would want is your child growing up in a house with mummy and daddy fighting all the time, if it is not working out go your seperate ways, he can still be a father to your daughter, if you are not together, life is too short for Sh*t...you need to be happy for your child to grow up happy
2007-05-04 23:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by mumma_of_4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys should stay together no matter how your life goes, don't forget that you have a child, you should do everything to be best parent only because of your child, talk to your man, If your life goes like that and you and him don't care about your life, then I'm sorry to tell you this, this will not work out.
2007-05-04 23:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Washington D.C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a child with a man.. doesn't mean you have to BE WITH HIM. If he's a stand up guy.. then he will be in your daughters life regardless of what goes down between the two of you. Don't settle.
2007-05-04 23:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Christine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you need counselling. This man doesn't respect you, doesn't love you, doesn't love your baby girl and won't help you bring her up. No, you're not nuts, but you need professional help. You need to talk to someone who can help you realise your own potential and help you see that you can raise a girl (on your own) who will grow into a woman who would never let herself be treated the way you've let yourself be treated.
2007-05-04 23:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this shows the type of life you'll have get out.
2007-05-04 23:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for counseling don't wait he sounds so unkind to you the mother of his child its real sad please go get help for yourself
2007-05-04 23:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by lorie v 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋