the man i live with for 9 years suddenly wants a break or short seperation, what does this mean?
2007-05-04 22:37:01 · 26 answers · asked by camiflage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It most likely means he needs a break. If you need further clarification you should be asking him, not us.
2007-05-04 22:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can definitely relate to this. However, I didn't live with anyone for that long though. What it means is that a guy needs his space. Obviously I don't know how your relationship so it is hard to say for sure why he needs a break. But when two people see too much of one another, there is a tendency for one of them (usually the guy) to want to do their own thing. I wouldn't worry too much though unless this short separation seems to be too long. He should realistically need a week or two. And this may or may not be acceptable that is up to you. If perhaps he needs longer time, then I would look for a better man.
2007-05-04 22:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by dmillergame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean that he has met someone else and is unsure of his feelings for you so he figures a short separation will help sort his feelings OR(you didn't say if you were married or not ) he could be planning to ask you to marry him and he dosen't want you to be living together at the time while he sorts out his feelings for you.Look on the bright side at least if there is someone else, he's not really disrespecting you by still living with you and doing it behind your back. There is some honesty there which means there's some respect, otherwise he could just disrespect you and do it behind your back and keep you hanging in there until he decides. At least this way you have some freedom to to do or see who you want, which is the way it should be. Be a little thankful he's being honest with you and not ruining your life by leading you on.
2007-05-05 06:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he's not happy with the way things are going. He wants to compare what it's like living with you to, not living with you. If he likes being apart better then being together, then he's going to want a divorce.
He may just realize that he would rather stay married, because he's missing you and being single is not all it's cracked up to be.
You can save this marriage right now. Don't just let him walk out the door without telling him you love him and you are willing to make changes to make him happy, because you can't live without him. You can't make any changes if you don't know what they are. Find out everything he feels right now. You have to communicate. You could make him feel that there's still hope and you will do anything to save your marriage. Good Luck
2007-05-04 23:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is tired of what ever has been going on, and isn't happy anymore. So he wants to take a break, and see if what he has is what he still wants or not. Don't nag at him, or he will leave faster. Don't do any thing negative that will make him stay away infact,try to do something that will catch his attention in a good way. Surprise him with doing something you havent done since you first met.
2007-05-04 23:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a nut shell,he 's tired of you and needs to spend some time on his own perhaps. Some men get like that it's usually called the 7 year itch but it just took a little longer with your guy. Not to worry if his been with you that long he knows which side of the bread the butters on. Just give him a bit of breathing space. But just make it clear you won't put up with any disloyalty you have both put to much into the relationship to do anything like that to each other.
AGONY UNCLE
2007-05-04 22:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by coofooman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he might be off playing the field, or thinking about doing so... but it might also mean that he just needs a break. Although you might be upset and looking for answers, limit your drama for now, if you really love him give him his break, have patience and watch things unfold. If he wants to be elsewhere, that is where he will go... The high moral ground is not a bad place to be.
2007-05-04 22:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by BellyD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of a few things. Either he has a new piece, has spotted a new piece he wants to try, he is scared, or he really has more on his plate then he is equipped to handle and needs space to figure things out. Your best bet is to ask him, tell him that you need his honesty, that you need to know that this is just space and not quits.
Good luck.
2007-05-04 22:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Christina Ford 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you need to get to the bottom of things and find out what is going wrong. It is usually not a good sign though...sorry
2007-05-04 22:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is bored,or aiming for a divorce or perm situation now,why? could be he is not happy obviously, or met someone else and respects you enough to separate to see if that is going anywhere,not very common a guy like that these days. you didn't see this coming?
2007-05-04 22:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by yessca333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be away from you for some time,nothing serious.Give him that break,and he comes back to you.
2007-05-04 22:41:32 · answer #11 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋