we used to date and he hurt me really bad by getting w/ someone else adn not dumping me or anything then calling to rub in he had her and she was preg. i gave up, and when i did he tried to get me back but i cussed him out ( been through too much pain to take him back ) anwyays now its 4 years later. we recently started talking again. he talks like he watns to get back togheter and then ignores me for 1 to 4 weeks. also he keeps saying things like " if my wife dumps me ill give you another chance " ( like im soupposed to feel lucky? ) then he says " In 16 years if ur still around ill get with you " then he made plans with me one time and broke them.
2007-05-04 19:56:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who cares about his intentions. He's married and if he is really any serious about you in the first place, he wouldn't have played games to begin with, like he's doing now. Forget about him.
2007-05-04 20:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Leila G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His intentions are obvious. He's a horse's @$$, and you (for some reason) keep coming back for more.
The real question is: Why are you allowing someone to treat you this way?
You need to work on that. You'd benefit from some kind of counseling to figure out what's going on with *you*. If you don't, you'll wind up with loser after loser, and that's no way to go through life.
The counseling need not come from a professional -- is there an older trusted person you can talk to -- someone who has his/her own life in order? If not, there are facilities which offer services on a sliding scale. Support groups are another option. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-05 03:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by sunrat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you´ve been through a lot of pain already because of him so you know that he is dishonest and he is playing games with your mind. This is the typicall kind of guy that will want to have you available and as a backup meaning that if he keeps your ears warm you will always keep a place for him in your heart and he will come to you as his last resort when things are not ok with his wife.
He is not able to respect his family and his wife, he made a long time commitment with her and is out there trying to get you down to your knees once more for him. You need to show him that you have grown up in these 4 years, that you are not the girl that will let him go his way with you and that you are a woman with a lot of integrity that is not interested in him anymore. Just go for it and be strong, i heard a lot of stories like this one and accompanied them and i know from experience that if you let him be abusive like that to you the only one ending bad in this story will be you. You already know how it hurts so stop doing that to yourself and move on.. no need to answer him back or to keep in touch with him, he brings nothing positive to your life and you are just going to get yourself into lots of troubles.
2007-05-04 20:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time talking to a man who caused you so much pain in the past? Change your phone number, email address, whatever you need to disappear from this idiot. Forget about him; find a real man.
2007-05-04 20:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by CW 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you know him he is already married, so why do you still want to get involved in this situation, are you ugly? so why not get yourself a single man? You should be ashame to expect anything from a married man, if you really have self respect, totally get rid of this stupid, self-centered married man.
2007-05-04 20:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by emma l 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's just feeding his ego, making sure you still want him. Tell him to get lost, you are not interested in him, married or divorced. You deserve better than this loser!
2007-05-04 20:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget this married man's intentions!definitely it is not good for you. just ignore him. don't give him another chance. if you care about yourself, if you have self respect, you won't give him any chance at all. he's just going to use you. this type of men should not even be given any minute of your time. they suck!
2007-05-04 20:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth your time. He's playing games with your head/heart. Don't waste time even thinking about this guy. He hurt you once, he'll do it again. He's not worth it.
2007-05-04 20:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your wake up call...
yeah, are you stupid or what?
the guy cheated on you, rubbed it in your wounds, got married, and still insulting you like that...and you still let him?
show some respect for yourself, there are other nice men out there for you.
2007-05-04 20:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by myohmymyohmy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
let the rat go. it did not work the first time hows it going the2nd. time
2007-05-04 20:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋