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Question

I am thinking to do home studying for my 12 years old daughter, I heard she kissed a boy today and I am very upset. so what do you think about it, please serious answer. Thanks

Answer 1

ok...umm...i dont think you should do that...just cause she kissed a boy shouldn't mean that you have to put her away forever...its normal...that had to happen sooner or later...dont be unfair! keeping her away from boys will just make her want to get closer to them...

♥stephie

Answer 2

Well, I can see why you would be upset, but I don't think home schooling her is the right thing to do just because she kissed a boy. I would just have a long talk with her about how you feel about her dating/kissing other boys and make sure that by the end of your talk she understands that if she kisses another boy she will be in huge trouble. Also warn her that if she does this again she WILL be homeschooled.

The reason I wouldn't homeschool her is because that would take away all of her friends and she would probably be lonely and upset. But like I said before, I would definately threaten to do this if she does it again.

If you do have to homeschool her, I would do it for a quarter/semester just so she knows you are serious. If she continues to do things like this then extend the time (like next time it's two quarters/semesters, then three, then maybe even a whole year).

Hope I helped!

Answer 3

I think that this is something that you have to give a lot of thought to. Have you thought about home schooling before or for the first time now that you got upset? Talk to other parents who home school their children. Find out what it is like for them and what their problems are.

I'm not against home schooling. I have heard both parents and their children give glowing accounts of their experience with home schooling. I also know that there are organizations that can give you assistance and advise you if this is what you decide to do.

I know that, as a Christian, I would not want to send my child to a public school unless I had to, but I don't believe that home schooling should be a punishment. It is a positive thing whereby you can give your child a better education(if that's true) and where she will not be subjected to the lies told by secular teachers.

God bless you and guide you in your decision making process.

Answer 4

Honestly I think it may be a bit drastic. I understand why you would be upset, 12 is young still. But I think a good sit down talk with the boy and her might do the trick. I mean how embarrassing for a 12 year old to have to sit with her MOM! I think that's what I would do. Watch her and if the behavior continues....which I highly doubt, then take the next steps, whatever they may be. Good Luck

Answer 5

I understand about being upset that your daughter kissed a boy at school. However, pulling her away from her friends because of it is not exactly the best way to go about it.

I, myself was home-schooled from sixth grade to ninth grade because my mother did not trust the public, or private, education system to do it properly. It is not something that is to be taken lightly, and you should probably be asking your daughter how she would feel about it. You'd need to develop your own curriculum that is comfortable for the both of you yet will not set her behind from her counterparts. You'd also need to obtain a special permit from your school district.

Instead of taking your daughter out, you should really talk to her calmly and rationally about your expectations for her behavior. Chances are she didn't realize that it was such a big deal.

Answer 6

Have you thought about how you would "home study" your daughter? You'd have to direct the lessons and make sure she isn't being shortchanged as far as her education is concerned. I think home study is a bit drastic. You need to have a very honest talk with her about life and sexuality and what leads to what, etc. Knowledge is power in this respect. Keep the lines of communication open with your daughter -- that's very important.

Answer 7

Twelve is about the right age for a first kiss. I was eleven, and I remained a virgin until I was an adult. It seems more important to talk to your daughter about the kiss and let her know your feelings about it without getting angry or threatening to pull her from school. A kiss is a very normal expression of feelings for a girl her age.

When was your first kiss? Your wife's? If you come from a culture where a first kiss does not happen as early as it did for your daughter, it is understandable that you would be shocked. Just try to understand that she may be experiencing a different culture in which a kiss is a rite of passage like any other. When you consider all of the things that could be happening to her, a kiss seems fairly benign.

Answer 8

Home studying has its own benefits. However, in school, your child would really be able to learn a lot from her interactions with fellow students and teachers as well. If you're very much bothered with the kiss, just gently talk to your daughter about how you felt about it. You could try to monitor her friends too... Try to make sure they don't pose as bad influences to her.

Answer 9

Your daughter isn't too young to kiss a boy. In fact, I'm sure most people her age have kissed before. She's just on the verge of becoming a teenager, so of course she is going to start to have feelings for boys.

Answer 10

Dont home study your daughter you are taking away her social interaction with other children which is very important.A kisss at 12 is a noral part of growing up

Answer 11

don't be so dramatic everyone kissed a boy at that age or even before...it's part of life and growing up. If you do the home schooling thing she will resent you for a long long time so please don't ruin her school experience. That stuff is normal.