I am so attached to my 3 and a half month old that I actually feel sad when I have to put her down for naps. I check on her a lot, partly just to see her little face. Just wondering if others felt heart pangs at even brief separations from their babies. I read parenting message boards, and most people seem to be the opposite--trying to find ways to occupy their little ones so they can have a break. I never feel that way at all.
2007-05-04 18:36:19 · 12 answers · asked by ? 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I had this too.
Do not feel guilty. Go with your instinct. A mother wanting to be with their child is a natural instinct that has helped increase their child's survival rate for 100's of years. You just have very strong maternal instincts. I could never take my eyes off my kid for quite a few years. It keeps them safer for things like noticing them putting a small object in their mouth and being near water. You're in love and it is wonderful!!
2007-05-04 19:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely normal. I was and still am like that with my son who is now 4. I wouldn't have it any other way. When he took his naps he layed on my chest. I carried him all the time and held him all the time. People told me I was spoiling him but I told them I would rather see a child spoiled than to see a child neglected! We now have an unbelievable bond with each other. My daughter was born prematurely and in the hospital for the first 3 months of her life so we didn't get to bond like that. She was a month old before I could even hold her for the first time. I know that because of that we will never be as close as my son and I are. And since she didn't get be to be held much during those first few months she has never been one that wants to be held. She is now 2 and the most independent thing you will ever see!! She is very strong minded. I don't leave my kids with anyone hardly at all. If my hubby and I go out then they go with us. I didn't have kids to not spend time with them or have someone else raise them. I knew that the rest of my life would revolve around my kids and that is exactly the way it is. I wouldn't change it for the world!!!
2007-05-04 20:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by tjdildine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel like this too. My son is 7 months old and i am returning to work soon and the thought of leaving him all day breaks my heart. I love to hold him all the time. People have actually told me that i should put him down more, (mostly my inlaws) but i love it and dont listen.
2007-05-04 19:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had four and have been like that with them all! I wear them in a sling all the time during their waking hours and check frequently on them during naps. Have only used a sitter three or four times since my oldest was born nine years ago.
My husband loves the kids too and really loves having them with us even on "Dates" LOL!
My three oldest are very independent children! You can not spoil a child to love!
I like this link:
http://www.naturalchild.org/
2007-05-04 18:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Carla R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happy for you. ENJOY every quited moment with you baby because I WONT last long. They grow way to quick!.. My daughter is 6 and my son 3, they talk their butts off and always yelling at each other. It is so stressing, but I remember when they were little, i would not even leave them at my moms house. I did not want to miss a second, now I scream... PLEASE WOULD SOMEONE TAKE THEM FOR 5 MINUTES!!!!!lol but i know it will get more interesting and harder!
2007-05-04 19:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by u_better_remember_me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think most mothers are like this when all mothers should be. Now that my son is a little older it's the other way around. He's very clingy but I still love him and I love it when he cries for me.
2007-05-04 19:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal, especially if she/he is your first. However, be careful that you don't over spoil them. They are fun to hold and play with now, and will be later too. But when she/he get heavier,more fidgety, start to teethe, unsettled at night, and constant crying it will very hard for you and your husband/partner. Your baby will also be attached to you, so will cry when you're away. It will make it hard for you to get other things done, eg. house work, eat, sleep and even going to the toilet.
It doesn't you have to love your baby less but you just have to avoid teaching your child bad habits.
2007-05-04 18:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by B T 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I love every moment that I spend with my daughter. My husband does too. I take complete care of her during the day and we take turns playing with her in the evenings. I HATE leaving her with babysitters but it's important that I still have that quality time with my hubby so that we are strong enough together and create a great home environment for our baby.
2007-05-04 18:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my girl is 16 months old and i'm still the same. i complain about having no time alone all the time but if she goes and plays in a different room i have to go find her! i love my girl!
2007-05-04 22:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by emoboyzrhot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am super attached to my baby that when I am away even for a bit, I get separation anxiety and my stomach hurts. I hold my baby close on my arms while sleeping. My baby sleeps so well in my arms. I get so envious when my mom refers to my baby as hers as in "hey my son" I am like he is my son !
2007-05-05 13:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by newmomma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋