I've been talking to this woman in a moms cafe and I just found out that her husband was the guy I lost my virginity to in high school because of a picture she emailed to me. I now feel kind of weird talking to her, especially since not even a month ago he told me that he wished that we were together. After that I cut all ties with him because I am happily married. What would you do?
2007-05-04 18:05:46 · 10 answers · asked by Becks6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What can be gained from it ? You done the right thing by cutting ties with him because he doesnt respect you, your husband ,or his wife. It is ok to befriends with her. But if she asks tell her the truth. It is always the best. Most in the world who are married were ot virgins so why worry
2007-05-04 18:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by cooljeff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH for God's sake, don't tell her you had sex with him! Just say you used to date! Something like," OMG! What a small world? I know your husband, we used to date in highschool!" then leave it at that. She will probably get a kick out of it and ask you questions about what he was like in highschool and do you have a picture. It was years ago. If she happens to ask if you slept with him, you can be honest, or say, "Hey it was so long ago it really doesn't matter if I did or didn't" Because it does NOT matter anymore. As for him saying he wishes you and he were together..don't tell her that either. If he's a cheater, she'll find out on her own.
2007-05-04 18:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by seraphim12002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For her sake, give her a heads up that her hubby ain't on the straight and narrow path of happily ever after. You're doing her a favor. You did right by cutting ties with him. If she asks you why he would say something like that to you, then tell her the truth. Everyone looses their virginity to someone. Well, most everyone.
2007-05-04 18:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No let it be. Stop talking to him and her and go your seperate ways. I wouldn't want to know about the girl my husband lost it to. Its one of those things that you know she's out there, but ignorance is bliss. Leave the situation alone...walk away. If you are happily married this shouldn't be a problem
2007-05-04 18:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by motormank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder what good it would do to tell her and would she even believe you. Her husband would most likely deny it making you out to be a liar. If telling her does nothing but hurt her, then why do it? Some might argue that she should know that her husband is a letch since he recently hit on you, but she will find that out on her own or from one of her CLOSE friends that he may have hit on. He won't be able to hide his lying eyes forever.
2007-05-04 18:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Diane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No good can come from mucking in the past. Kudos on cutting communication! As long as ahe never knows you can still talk but beware of a "woman scorned"
2007-05-04 18:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by red2queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband. Co-parenting is between him and her and holding issues out of your husband won't bode properly for you or his have confidence for you and the welfare of his toddler. If she has a challenge with it then take a step lower back from her for awhile and after issues are extra calm she will comprehend you have been doing what's ultimate for her son.
2016-12-17 04:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by killeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you talked to that women and if you think in past days u guys become friends and she's nice inugh that u can do her a faver ....i would say u shouldn't tell her cuz it might ruin there relationship.....but at the same time if ur too much friendly now then think about it cuz if he tell u that u guys should be together he might said the same thing to otha womens to behind her wife back ...so it should be all u think about it which side u like to take.... cuz u dont pick past to ruin someones future ..!!!
tc
2007-05-04 18:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and his wife
2007-05-04 18:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Reta, Bears mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, WHY would you tell her?
It is the past. Leave it be.
2007-05-04 18:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋