Every time I have plans to go out with my family or friends he will find something else for himself to do so he wont have to watch our son.
Last Wensday I made plans with my sister to go out on Saturday and I told him about my plans that day also asked him to watch our son, and I believe on wensday he said ok.
Last night He was talking to his Grandma on the phone and told her that he would be going to his dad's to work in the shop on Saturday.
And when I told him I had plans already to get out with my sister he ignored me.
Tomorrow is Saturday and I don't know what I should do!
I want to go out with my sister since it has been 4 years since we have hang out alone without my son
But I don't know what to say to my husband
He always says I boss him around too much but is asking really bossing around?
He usually gets his way by myself giving in or he will just leave.
Should I just call his father and tell him that I already had plans and he can still go if he takes our son?
2007-05-04 18:02:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would This Be To Bossy To Ask Tomorrow?
" Honey, Since You Were Out With Your Dad last Night At A Church Concert.
Could I Go With My Sister Today And Maby You Can Set Something Up With Your Dad To Work In The Shop On Sunday?"
Do You Think That Would Be Too Much For Him?
2007-05-04 18:15:05 · update #1
No one will watch my son due to my son's disability!
(not even my close friends or my parents will)
Daycares won't take him so that is not an option!
2007-05-04 18:16:55 · update #2
The reason why I would ask his father is because he knows I'm suffering and he has been trying to work with his son over this and has offered the help to me in the past.
I have never tried to get him involved he just knows how his son is!
2007-05-04 18:24:07 · update #3
i know exactly how you feel, i was in the same sort of situation. and no, you're not being bossy, or asking too much of him. you should get to go out every once in a while. but for all the time i sacrificed with my friend, and spent with my son, i have been rewarded. my son would now rather spend time with me at my house than with his mom at her house (we're divorced).
2007-05-04 19:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brian D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahahahahahahhaah aha haha hahahahah !!!!!
Sorry for that but truly speaking I feel laughter on your question, it's not the question but your inner desperate thinking which have come out of it.
Its not the word to be used as Hate Andi's not hatred and nor a really hating for just not watching SON when you wanna go out, and more over I can say this is not the actual cause there is something behind and you have to dig out between two and try to sort out your own problems and sit and think of it and come to a conclusion, see where and what you both are missing and where the mistake is and what is causing the gap between you two and stay with Love and get the things done within each in a happiest way. So you need better understanding nor your husbands Mother or Father is going to help you on this.
Your desperation shows that you both loved each other too much and now the things are not happening, so cool and come to better understanding after all you both need to sort it out and stay happy making a HAPPY FAMILY.
"Well Wisher"
2007-05-05 01:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you married the wretch. Sounds like he's got you right where he wants you. You two need counseling BIG TIME. He sounds like a creep. He either IS a creep or you have some real issues with him, either way this will not end well without some work and some help.
I ABSOLUTELY fail to see why on Earth you would involve his father in this - It would appear that you have a hidden agenda.
I think you have few options this time. How did it come to pass that you are the one "stuck" with your son full-time? Next time don't allow him not to agree. Parents are partners who share the duties.
You marriage needs lots of repairs. Oh and if his word can't be trusted you might as well dump him now.
2007-05-05 01:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a marriage counselor, minister, priest etc. You need to discuss this with a neutral party that is trained in working with couples.
It could save your marriage and make life much better for BOTH of you.
2007-05-05 11:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to go out, and he wont care for his child...
Get a sitter.
2007-05-05 01:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave...If he does it all the time he needs to know its not o.k. since he ignored you, ignore him. just walk out.
2007-05-05 10:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋