get back to sleep. She was killed instantly when a drunk driver crossed the center line and hit her head-on. It's been devestating. I had a dream one night, well, I thought it was another dream anyway, and I swear I felt cold hands on my ankles, it woke me up. Nothing was there but I know what I felt too. I felt so strange that night. We used to joke with each other that we'd haunt the other of something ever happened to one of us. I had a dream another night and it was like a conversation we actually had one time, like it was happening all over again, what we'd talked about, which was about the choice of being burried or cremated, were she said she wanted to be cremated, which she was actually. What do you think these dreams mean? I miss her so much, she was my very best friend.
2007-05-04 17:16:32 · 12 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her Birthday was the same month as mine also, in November.
2007-05-04 18:19:55 · update #1
I moved out of state, and she still had a Christmas present for me in her closet.
2007-05-04 18:20:34 · update #2
Unfortunately I've been through this myself more than once. What you are going through is natural. But don't let it consume you. Your friend would not want you to be suffereing like this forever. Obviously you cared about her very deeply, and it was a very traumatic way for her to be taken from your life. I'd like to explain alot more about your experience with the touching on your ankles but I wouldn't have enough room on here, and lots of people would probably insult e, and rip me up. If you wanna talk more send me an email at lakeguy2302@yahoo.com. I'd be glad to do it.
2007-05-04 17:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You, my Dear, are perfectly normal. I lost a friend many years ago. She was only 18 at the time and was driving along Rt.35 in New Jersey when for some reason she crossed the line and hit another car head on. They figured she fell asleep. Her name was Robin. That was over thirty years ago.
What you are experiencing is your mind trying to deal with it. Here is how it went for me.
First it is unreal. You know it happened but you don't really believe it. Then when she really isn't around anymore it hits you. Every time you go to someplace where the two of you used to go it hits you. You find that these feelings eventually start to fade a bit. Then suddenly, it hits you again and you cry all over again. Only, now when that happens, you find you feel better afterwords.
As I said it was thirty years ago. I don't think about her much anymore but every once in a while, her favorite song will play and she comes back only now, I mostly remember the good times and fun we had. So, in a way, I guess as long as I remember her she still exists.
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2007-05-04 18:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Not the best at saying what dreams mean but I think that you are just thinking about her and the times you've had with her. It's normal to dream about her too-after all, when you lose somebody you love it takes time because you are in grief. I think the cold hands on your ankles was just you. I once had a dream that a girl (who I was sort of friends with) went with me to eat lunch and she had a knife. She claimed it was just for self defense and nothing more. And she got up to get a refill on her drink, or so she said. So I was just sitting there when I saw the blade out of the corner of my eye and it began to tear in my skin-towards my neck. I could feel the blade and had a hard time going to sleep. But then I realized that our minds gets really into our dreams and we find ourselves feeling things-just like how I felt that stupid blade (i know for a fact that girl wouldn't slice me anyway, btw) and how you felt the cold hands.
So yeah, you're just thinking about her a lot and your memory is probably pulling up conversations you had with her. I wouldn't freak over it or anything-I'd just take a deep breath and remind myself that it was just a dream and nobody could get in your room without you noticing. Then I'd say a prayer-if you pray, and then close my eyes and go back to sleep.
Sorry for your loss.
Have a nice weekend and I hope I helped!
2007-05-04 17:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing you can do is LETTING GO. Let her go from you. You can not do anything to bring her back. The 2nd is ask GOD to help you to release her from your mind. 3rd if you said something or did something that offened her or she got hert. You need to forgive yourself of what you did or said.
Then at night and every night you need to ask GOD to protect you and give you a peace of mind. This is the only thing I could think of at this time.
Also I will pray for you so that you may have a good night sleep and rest.
2007-05-04 19:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sun Valley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is hard to loose a friend i know.
Een though none of my friends hae died i have being apart from them..still we have to b strong and the rest is in GODS will!!
Take care!!!♥
Your a nice person to worry a lot about your friends but still shes ina better place i like to be UP there instead of facing the horribel human destiny!!
2007-05-04 17:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok take this from me because I had the same thing happen to me....My BESTFRIEND died last year but I delt with it horribly because we were so close i became depressed and never stopped dreaming or thinking about him...but i realized that maybe just maybe that was his way of telling me hes ok and hes happier now...it hurts so bad to think about it still because it was only last year(for me also) but i know it will get easier...for me and you...try and think posotive...=) she is happier now and she wouldnt want you to be upset...
2007-05-04 17:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal all wounds. It hurts for months, then go into depression for about a year, then life goes on. You will always be sad about the death and always remember it.
You have to keep going with your life and just remember the good time you have together.
2007-05-04 17:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by bbj1776 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to grieve, but i think this may be an unhealthy greviance.
maybe you should see a counselor or therapist or someone (not because you're crazy but to help you move on..)
you might stop having the dreams.
its ok to move on..you can still remember her and cherish the time you had together, but its not healthy to be weighed down with her death like this.
2007-05-04 17:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe people go to heaven when they die, so your friend comes around to see you. Know she's happy, she's in a much better place now. If you think she doesn't know she's dead then you need to call her by name and tell her she's dead and tell her to go to the light.
I watch Sylvia Browne on Montel Williams Show
2007-05-04 17:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by 212 Degree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U just miss her very much. I'm sorry for what you're going through, honor her memory, and live your life to the fullest.
2007-05-04 17:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sage of Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋