I just got back from the hospital. My ex g/f jess is in the hospital because she been having serious crapping and bleeding from the uteris. Her doctor told us that if she carrys the baby to term, she could lose her life. It is all my dam fought, if i did not cheat on her with cassie, none of this would be happening. I know i am not with her anymore and i am back with my other pregnant g/f cassie but i still have major feelings for jess and if anything happens to her, i will never forgive myself. I was in the room with her and when the her doctor told her that, she was explaining it in doctor terms whatever and i said english please, she told us that is she carrys this baby to term, she could lose her life also and the baby might die too. She started crying and she put her arms around me and i was shocked. i was conforting her and she was crying in my shoulder. Cassie did not like me going to the hospital to be with jess, but she is pregannt and i still have feelings for her.
2007-05-04 15:49:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
jess is afraid on keeping this baby because it might kill her but she does not have the heart to get a abortion. what should she do? i told her do whatever you feel right, i will understand if you get rid of the baby. please help
2007-05-04 15:50:34 · update #1
i stil love cassie and i am with her but jess was my first g/f and i dont want nothin to happen to her. if anything happens to her, i will never forgive myself. i tried to talk to her but she ignored me, i started to cry and i went over to her bed and tried to hold her hand but she pulled her hand away from mine. i told her, i will always be here for her and i will not abandand her. She was shaking her head and crying. i just wanted to hold her in my arms and let her cry in my shoulders. i told her i still have major feelings for her. she yelled at me, then why did you cheat on me with that sl*t cassie. That isnt true love, she is only sex to you because of her nice body. i did tell her i do love cassie but she will always be important in my life to and i love her alot to. She told me she still has feelings for me and that she doesnt want to lose me but what happened between me/cassie and her will never be the same. we did share a kiss moment, i did have a shot to kiss her but i didnt.
2007-05-04 15:51:02 · update #2
i just relieze something, i am not as happy as i thought i would be. well i am happy because i am with a wonderful beautiful girl in cassie but it is somewhat their mentally/emotionally, but i do miss being with jess, she is a wonderful girl, she is nice, caring, beautiful, hot hot hot lol but she doesnt deserve a jerk like me, if anything happens to jess or the baby, i will never forgive myself. i thought i was 100% happy with cassie but i quess i'm not, i do love cassie but i can feel that jess got my heart. i dont know what to do, they both are wonderful girls and beautiful. cassie is wilder then jess, jess is to but not alot. cassie goes to alot of parties, jess do to but she rather stay home or come over to my place and cuddle up to a nice movie. Cassie does to but she likes to party more. why did i cheat on jess, i still love her. i will be going back to the hospital to see her, i dont care if cassie likes it or not, i still love jess and i do still love her, she has to know
2007-05-04 15:51:50 · update #3
i feel horrible putting her in this situation. she is only in high school, she is a senior and i am a junior, cassie is too. Jess is the most wondeful girl in the world, she is beautiful,smart, funny, very nice and i dont know why i cheated on her. she does not deserve to have me and i wish i would just rot in h*ll for what i did to her.
2007-05-04 15:53:21 · update #4
She should probably get an abortion. It is not worth her life to have this baby. The fact that the father (you) can't keep your pants zipped is another reason for her to have an abortion. Learn from this and start using birth control and stop cheating.
2007-05-04 15:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
wow that was alot. few questions though. 1) how far along is jess. 2) what exactly did the dr say she had. If it is an eptopic pregnancy she really can't carry to term. An eptopic pregnancy is where the baby attaches to the wall of the fallopian tube(the small tube leading from the ovary to the uterus) the fallopian tubes are not able to stretch and grow like the uterus and as the baby grows it'll strain the tube until it breaks. If that happens many things can happen to jess. like the dr said she could die, she could need emergency surgery to remove the tube and the fetus and she could even lose her ability to have children all together. Usually with an eptopic the baby won't make it to the point where it would be able to live outside the uterus and will most definitely die. I know this is hard for both of you, I lost a baby too, he/she would have been turning one this month. I wish you two all the luck with this difficult decision and with what happens afterwards
2007-05-04 16:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by lizincali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very interesting and complicated situation. Cassie should understand the situation you are in and that you will still be supportive to Jess. I mean, no matter what, she is carrying your child, is your ex, and you will always have some sort of relationship with her. Right now it is going to be particularly stressful on your relationship with Cassie, though, because you need to be there for Jess as much as possible. Jess needs to be a priority, especially if she tries to go through the entire pregnancy. You may have found a wonderful person to be with, but you have prior commitments in this case and need to be there for your ex and your child. I'm sorry to hear she is in such a dangerous situation. Just be strong. You need to be strong enough for the both of you. Good luck.
2007-05-04 15:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an emotional wreck because you are having to deal with adult problems and you are so young. It is a tough situation and I hope next time you use birth control. Talk to the hospital minister and pray for her. You are so mixed up and I am sorry for your dilemma. Just be there for your ex gf to support her and the baby but do not play on her emotions right now. It is not fair to her. Wait until she is out of the hospital and things calm down to make any decisions about which gf you want. Right now is not the time. Be patient. You need guidance from someone you trust. Think about the future. If the baby lives then the baby will need financial support, emotional support, and guidance. Are you mature enough to take on this responsibility? I hope so. If the baby does not live your ex gf will take a lot of healing and support. Are you sure you want to lose your gf over this? You have a lot to think about and people who are depending on you. Good Luck.
2007-05-04 16:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by workerman 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he the daddy of the newborn? If now no longer you and your boyfriend thoroughly erase her out of your life. do now no longer answer her calls and dont paintings mutually in a verbal substitute including her. you're saying you've been with him for a three hundred and sixty 5 days so im assuming the newborn isn't his, yet why has she named the newborn after him its a contact mad aspect to do if hes now no longer the daddy. What does your boyfriend might want to assert about this behaviour after a three hundred and sixty 5 days? Doesnt he adventure hes being stalked fairly? Or are they actually though acquaintances that share a historic previous mutually and thats why shes named the newborn this. it really is carefully risk free yet i'd requested your boyfriend some corporation questions. If hes even been including her once or inspired her in any comprehend time to kick himto the cut back. good fulfillment
2016-11-25 19:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by yanaton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem sounds medical so why would you think it is your fault, the choice is hers to make, if she wants to carry the baby to term it is her choice,she probably wants so much to see the face of her baby born even if not for long if she dies after childbirth. I would suggest not to stress her any further, wait until she calls you. If you had feelings for her you probably shouldn't have started another relationship with someone else,what you need to think of are you going to be around for your baby if she isn't, how will your current g/f feel about that, there is a lot to think about here.
2007-05-04 21:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by kymm r 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats a good thing that you are at least feeling remorse for what you did. But I think you really really need to speak to a licensed social worker or psychiatrist about what is going on. It seems like a whole lot to deal with, and I doubt anyone on here will be of any help.
2007-05-04 16:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Foxtrot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i remember reading your other question about these two girls. what you need to do, is explain to jess that if theres that big of a chance that she and the baby wont make it to full term, that she needs to probably abort it. ur still young, theres plenty of time for her to true for a baby later on. oh, and cassie needs to chill. she knows that your the father and even if you arent there for jess, you have to be there for the baby.
2007-05-04 15:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by parkerpixy84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have an emergancy C surly the doctors can do that. This is a life or death situation and she can't have an abortion talk to her and the doctors about an early C and hopefully everything will be ok.
2007-05-04 19:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from both girls, ALL girls, until you can get your self straight. You sound pretty immature and perhaps it would benefit you to spend some time on your own. If you choose not to, for God's sake, USE A CONDOM!!!
2007-05-04 15:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by blondbrainserenity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋