How to deal with an a--hole?

Question

Here's the generalized story so that I can come to the point. I currently am building my self-confidence. I am actively wanted to change myself to be more positive and have tougher skin. I just noticed that I've met a lot of a--holes so far and it has gotten me down. For example, my professor is an a--hole who made it soooo hard for me this semester...I let her have more importance. Basically, I let the way she treated me (like crap) dictate how I felt about myself. I had time to reflect these days and realized the way I see myself is based on how others treat me. For ex, if they are nice...it boosts up my self-confidence. And, if they are jerks...it lowers my self-confidence and I can't seem to be myself. I think I have a lot of growing up to do. I'm 23 years old...I should be old enough to start standing up against bullies (which I've had quite a few nasty catty girls). I've always been sensitive, sweet, and really caring growing up. Now I've learned what reality is...

But now I need to make that consortive effort to not take crap from anyone. The thing is...sometimes when people are mean it flies over my head and then later I realized I was made fun of (catty girls in college). Inside, I really believe I'm a wonderful person and have a lot to contribute, but I need to toughen up a little cause this world will give you bruises from time to time. My question is...I'm really not good in talking back to people (not fast in thinking of comebacks)...how do I get better, through practice? And last question, how do you deal with a--holes...cuz let me tell ya...there's too many of them around.

Answer 1

srry i cant answer u u have like along story

Answer 2

Be an ****** back!!! I don't take no crap from anyone!!! You don't have to yell or cuss. It's what you say NOT how you say it! I would have told that professor on the very first day; You're supposed to be the smarter one here, why don't you try acting like it because I'd really like to get something out of your class, other than a complex that is. Sometimes you have to get downright mean, verbally; before you can earn their respect. When you run across someone like this, keep one thing in mind; They're the one with the complex!! Don't let their bullying attitude give you one. Stand firm.

Answer 3

You might want to talk to a counselor. It sounds like you've never had to deal with these kinds of people before & now you feel like a goldfish in a shark tank. Get away from those you can & try to find out who you are to stand up to the rest. Weigh your options. What could be the consequences of a confrontation? Can you deal with that? What are your strengths. What are you proud of about YOU? There are going to be ******* all your life. It's best if you can learn how to deal with them now.

Answer 4

Everyone who is in your life is there for a reason. It's to teach you something and help you grow as a person. Please don't think that you have to become "hard" to stand up for yourself but, just be more assertive. This includes not really caring what people think-including teachers. It's their job to push you and make your life hell so you "toughen up". Eye contact does a lot, it can show people that you have a stronger will or a more submissive one. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

i think we had the same course,
you just described the prof. that i got this course with her this semester, at first i thought she is nice, but now i know that she is a jerk who wanted to put everyone down, this semester she made my life hell,.........and yes i had to get every crap from her and say nothing......and it killed me inside........

Answer 6

uuuuh, ok