Do we have to suffer to be loved?

Answer 1

Yes, love is a form of human suffering (not a religious prespective)...if you think about it... when you love someone soo much and then they die, it creates suffering, or when you feel love for your significant other and the realationship ends, it creates suffering.....when your in a relationship thats going well, you constantly worry about losing this person as a result it creates suffering..........whether the relationship is good or bad, the end result is that it will create some sort of suffering, you may not always feel as though it is but "suffering exists in love"........In order to gain something your losing something else....so there is no such thing as being in love and not suffering.....if we just free ourselves from this notion of LOVE I wonder how the world would be like??

Answer 2

What does SUFFER mean to you....To some, suffering can be simply not having the same freedoms they experienced before Love gave them a concience. A concience can mean a period of suffering, but it is also a time of new beginnings and evolving as humans are meant to do. If you aren't ready to evolve, you will suffer. If you are ready, you will suffer still, although you will also thank god you are becoming worthy of being called a responsible adult selfless enough to love and be loved.

Answer 3

We should not have to suffer "to be" loved. But loving another is suffering.

Being separated, one being ill, a silly argument, all cause suffering. But would anyone want the alternative?

Answer 4

To be loved you need not to suffer but for love you might need to suffer.

Answer 5

Let's put it this way, if anyone makes you go through suffering before you can feel the love isn't really loving you.

Answer 6

Hell, no.
To expect attention if you're suffering is one thing. Those who love you and those who don't might display empathy, sympathy or even pity, but that isn't love nor is that response contingent upon being loved.

Winners are loved, happy people are loved and suffering people are loved. If I had to chose one of those AND being loved, it wouldn't be suffering. And the nice thing is, we get to chose how we feel; although at times it's appropriate to be sad or distressed, there are people, who, even in the worst conditions, make themselves happy by choosing to view events from the most optimistic of views.

Peace (and happiness)

Answer 7

not necessarily but i find it to be true for me:( in the case of a significant other...usually they love me and i don't love them back as much as they deserve or i love someone and they don't return my love.i have been loved by others but their happiness is my misery because i don't feel the same about them.so in my case, love is painful and i yearn for it but sometimes would rather avoid it.it's a bitter sweet thing.unrequited love is all i've ever known love to be.

in the case of family and friends, you feel unconditional love, so there's not too much suffering.past experiences might cause someone to be jaded about the concept of love though.for these people, suffering as the result of love is all too familiar.sometimes the suffering is worth it, if the happiness of loving someone and being loved is achieved.

Answer 8

no, nobody should suffer to be loved, i mean you have to take some risks but they should never suffer.(if the person doesn't love you then that means he/she is not right for you.

Answer 9

No, to be loved (passive end) is rather pointless in spite of its importance in building up one's self esteem. What puts you in touch with pain is to love (active end). You're loved, so that you'll be equipped to love, that is, to suffer.

Answer 10

Love and suffer are not synonyms, they are antonyms. One is not necessary for the other to exist.