My daughter cries every time she sees my brother. He has a beard, but so does my dad. Nothing has ever happened to elicit this response. He is the only one she acts this way around. It started when she was about 4 months old. What can I do to help her have fun with or at least tolerate being near her uncle?
2007-05-04 12:41:30 · 16 answers · asked by T T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No, he was never alone with her. I have been there every time.
2007-05-04 12:51:32 · update #1
Does he wear glasses? Is so have him take them off. Does he have a loud voice? Is so, have him tone it down alittle. Time is usually the answer. Maybe all she needs is to get used to him being around and let her be the one to warm up to him. By all means, DO NOT force the child to let him hold her, touch her, etc. Have him to look as if he is ignoring her for awhile and see what happens. Let me know how it goes, if it don't work we will try something else.
2007-05-04 12:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Patti S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he was never alone with her, that rules out abuse. Maybe its the tone of his voice. Ask him to try to speak softer. My 18 month old nephew freaks out everytime a male talks to him unless it's his father. Nobody knows why. He doesn't react quite so bad to females but he is weary around everyone he doesn't see everyday.
And at the risk of sounding paranoid, don't leave her alone with him for any reason or any amount of time. Forcing her to be with him could cause her to feel like she doesn't have the right to say no when she gets older and someone wants to touch her.
2007-05-04 20:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest sister cried non stop when my uncle would come around, he had a really long black beard and long black hair. She hated him and cried from the time she was a baby until she was in grade school and he came home with his hair short and his beard shaved. Then she asked "who is that guy". Really odd what things kids will get scared about.
2007-05-04 19:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son does the same then to my friend and he is always around her.I am always over there with him. I think your daughter see something in him and don't want to be around him.Has he had any children or any child like people in his life?If he hasn't she might see that he don't know what to do.If he wears glasses or if he smokes that might scare her off too. Look at the lil things and look where her eyes goes when he omes into the room she might show you something that you don't know.Lil children are good at pointing things out that nobody else can. Don't try to make her go near him if she don't want to.That will just scare her more.
2007-05-04 19:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll get there dont worry. When I was about 3 or 4 most of my cousins and I were scared of our uncle. (we were all from ages 2-5) and each time he would come over we would all scream run hide and cry. Eventually we outgrew it. My uncle has got to be one of the most decent human beings. Also very funny.
2007-05-04 19:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are often scared of certain things or people for no reason at all. I'm not sure there is anything that you can do to stop it. I wouldn't try to pressure her at all because then she might be more resistant to get to know him. She'll eventually get over it on her own. Just let her come around in her own time!
2007-05-04 19:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She recognizes him as being someone strange. This is a good thing. Probably not to your brother, lol. Something about his appearance, probably the facial hair, if no one else has any hair this probably freaks her out. Have your brother and yourself be patient, this is normal and called "stranger anxiety". Don't worry.
2007-05-04 19:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister freaked out about my dad for a while when she was little. mom blamed it on the beard too. she grew out of it eventually. people are making too big a deal out it - she's only 5 months.
2007-05-04 20:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by sammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he a "nervous" type? Sometimes kids can sense that even if they don;t really kn ow the person. Maybe play games or somethign with them both so she can get used to him adn see hes not so bad?
2007-05-04 19:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be anything from his cologne to his hat. who knows? I don't think its anything to worry about at all. just have him come around more often so she gets used to seeing him but not to try to pick up the baby until she stops freaking out. she will eventually stop and then they can bond. it will pass
2007-05-04 21:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋