what would you do!!?

Question

if your partner was terminally ill and asked you to help them to end thier pain?
1, would you!
2, could you?
3,would you have to say NO!

jh, if it wasted your time then why did you waste more answering?

firstly i know its illegal, second i know life has its own natural time to end, but thirdly my wife has a terminal brain tumour and can no longer cope with it? she asked me this very question today hoping i could answer! but all i did was collaspe to the floor an cry, so why is it illegal for someone who is suffering so much to be able to end what i can only refer to as an existance an not a life?

Answer 1

Having seen someone die in great pain! It is not prettty I tried to get more morphin for her and they would not give it to her. Like another hour or two would have matter!
The her is my mom she had a liver transplant in 1987. She died in 2004 the last six months were bad. At that moment I wish I had thought of something. I think doctors should show a little compassion when there is no hope and everyone knows.
I heard this dumba55 on tv once who was against this he said that in your final moment you could write a great poem. No you scream in pain lose all control of your bowels and you ask to die and no one will help. I do not want this to happen to me. Put a bullet in me if you have too. I will forgive anyone to end the pain!

Sorry I am ranting!

Answer 2

1 - 3: no I wouldn't because there is always another way - better pain relief, better acceptance of the inevitable, a chance for redemption and healing but not necessarily in a religious or physical way.

When a person is close to death there are always choices, none of which can seem good for either them or those that look after them, but they can bring people together without the use of euthanasia. In the UK the Hospice movement has worked for many years to bring hope and relief to those at the end of their life. There is also 'The Pathway' that has been developed in the NHS and should be available.

There are always choices, but only you can say what is the right one for you.

If you are interested see the links below and next time your local Hospice is raising funds, think about donating or helping.

Answer 3

This is not a question anyone should have to answer; my heart goes out to you for having to go through this much pain and suffering. I sincerely hope you can look into HOSPICE programs in your area, because they can offer great comfort to terminally ill patients, and will help make their final days the most comfortable possible. They provide many services and medications that will ease her suffering.

My dear aunt just passed from a brain mets and she was suffering terribly...but she lived in a country where hospice does not exist. It was horrible to experience, knowing her suffering even though I was so far away.

So even if this doesn't directly answer your question, I hope it may help your situation. Look for hospice...your doctor or hospital should be able to connect you...the hospice doctors and staff are the best trained to help terminal patients...much more than a regular doctor...neurosurgeon or not!

Answer 4

Unfortunately I have been in this exact position. My husband was in the hospital for months and months waiting for a heart transplant. His heart was giving out before a new donor heart could be located. He was put on an internal heart pump as life support. The heart pump caused an infection which in turn caused an aneursym in his head. They did neurosurgery and there was permanent damage and he would never be able to receive a donor heart. My husband and I had a discussion on a number of occasions previously about if he could not function as a normal human being and couldn't speak for himself, he would want me to have all life support methods completely stopped. I agreed - never thinking I would be in that position - and at the same time understanding and respecting his views. Well that time did come. He was in horrible pain and it would just be a matter of time before the infection would completely consume his body. There was no cure. Only life support was keeping him alive. I spoke to my priest about our discussion and agreement and asked if it would be a sin to allow his life support system to be shut down. I was told it was not sinful as he was being kept alive by artifical means. I must tell you it was the hardest and saddest thing I've ever done in my entire life - but I couldn't selfishly allow him to remain in an agonizing state. I kept my promise and let him go peacefully. I do miss him so much but I don't regret it. I know I made the right decision.

Answer 5

The law is way out of line with most people's thinking on this issue - apart from the medieval folk who believe that "God" decides when you will die (=causes) - what a load of nonsense. I hope you can:
- try hospices as suggested
- persuade medical authorities to respect your wife's wishes
- as a last result, go to Oregon or find some other way to help achieve the outcome your partner clearly desires. If you do some or all of these things, you will feel proud, not guilty, about the course you choose.

Answer 6

Everyone should be able to decide what to do with their lives as long as it doesn't harm others, and even though that will cause the closest people a lot of pain , the pain you are both enduring now and will in future, both phisically and mentally, may be even worse if there is no hope of a recovery.
I think it actually takes a lot of courage to ask this question.
All the best x

Answer 7

move to Oregon right away then you wont have to do jail time for doing what is best for your wife. the law there is the best in the U.S. and its easy IF your wife is terminally ill. Dogs and cats get more compassion at the end of life! Death is the most intense thing that will happen to someone in their life and is the most spiritual as well. It's only right that the govt. stay out of peoples spiritual rights.

Answer 8

This may be against the law in the UK, but I have discussed this with my mother and (ex)partner, that personally if I was in the situation of being terminally ill I would wish to be helped to end this sooner and my mother wished the same. I recently euthanised one of my tropical fish, she was suffering badly, and I beleive it should be given option for humans.

Answer 9

I would first tell them they were being very selfish then i would ask if they wanted me to go to jail because if i were to help them "end it all" and someone found out i would face charges because that sort of thing is illegal....then if they still wanted me to "help" and i loved them very much & thought they were in horrible pain and better off dead i would decide if i could live with my self if i did do it and if i could then i would....i wouldnt make it painful or anything maybe like set a bottle full of pills and a glass of water in arms reach kiss them good bye and leave......something like that.....i hope your not in this situation

Answer 10

Yes to 1 & 2.