What do you do if they play mind games and make you feel sorry for them or guilty even if they treat you like total crap?
2007-05-04 11:27:02 · 29 answers · asked by J♥R♥R 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sure am, and I don't hesitate to do it when necessary.
Some people are just too toxic/dangerous to have around you.
Since you know they're playing mind games, you keep that in mind and don't let them draw you into it. You stay strong by keeping in mind how they do you when given the opportunity.
They feel bad? How bad do YOU feel when they start their
$h!t?
You are not obligated to treat these people better than they treat you.
When you do have to deal with them, be polite, and keep it brief. Do not allow them to draw you into a situation you cannot control; for example, if you must see them, meet them somewhere or see them at their house. This means you get to decide when it's time to go. If they're at your home, you're stuck in the game 'til they want to leave.
Screen your calls. Surely you have caller ID. Don't answer the phone when you know it's them. Call them back when YOU feel up to dealing with them. If they catch you off guard, tell them you have to go. They'll try to engage you anyway, just keep repeating variations of you have to go. You may have to all but hang up on them, so do it.
Do not explain anything; this gives them room to argue you're points and it's not their place to do so.
When they start with the "standards" resort to "I'm sorry you feel that way", and such. Master the art of changing the subject.
These people do not respect you, and won't unless you make them. If they can't grasp that, then maybe they just don't need to be around you.
2007-05-04 11:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know something. That is a very tough one. Ive had 2 recently cut my best friend out of my life 4 reasons fairly similiar 2 what u have just said. All i could possibly suggest would b what i had 2 do 2 come 2 the conclusion that i did. And that was 2 sit and weigh out all the facts. I had 2 gauge the good times versus the bad. And the sad thing is that sometimes with people the bad times outweigh the good. I know thats a really weird thing 2 say about a best friend. I just couldnt accept the way that he was living his life.Ultimately it was about what made me truly happy. And not trying 2 please people. Its really rough. I wish you the best
2007-05-05 12:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Joe D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am, I have and I will if ever I have too. The only manipulative and controlling person I have not cut off from my life is my mother. But I have met some people with the tendency to cling to me, try to own me and make me feel guilty if I don´t hang up with them all the time or do what they want... I call them emotional vampires, and I hate that kind of people.
Don´t hesitate, you´ll feel a lot better, amazingly free and light as soon as you get rid of thi kind of people.
They should all be put together in a getto.
2007-05-04 11:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by melissa986 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really really hard for me to do it with people I've known for months and years, I feel guilty for doing that and end up second guessing my hunches so I keep going back. If it's someone I've only known a few weeks or just met, then no it's not, but I guess that's obvious.
2007-05-04 11:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I'm strong enough. I don't let people play mind games with me. I just walk away
2007-05-04 11:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am strong, & I've done that...just this past 2 years...
you have to be strong...
either this person brings you to the lowest of low,
& isn't healthy for you, or not...
I was really scared for the first time of someone that I had been married to for 21 yrs. scared for my life..., maybe that's what made it easy for me, but it was a long time to get over, I still look over my shoulder at all times...
2007-05-04 11:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You see now why i stick around with my ex who i love and hate so dearly? He used to treat me bad but now it's the other way round. He still does in some way, but indirectly. I feel sorry and guilty for what i have put him through, but it's not as bad as compared to what he has put me through.
2007-05-04 11:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've only had two people like that in the last 10 years. I just moved and didn't give them my phone # or new address. Lame, I know, but hey, it worked!
2007-05-04 11:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by comet girl...DUCK! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've got no problem with ridding my life of creeps. I don't have time to waste on them. And it doesn't matter who they are. If they're truly toxic people, I'll cut them off in a heartbeat.
2007-05-04 11:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was the hardest cut I ever made....to make it stick I had to change the phone number and finally move, leaving no forwarding address. Stick to your convictions and when it gets hard you can call on me.
2007-05-04 11:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋