Okay so this guy and I have been flirting for the past 3 months and each time it gets more and more serious it went from looking at each other touching each other. The thing is that the other night I was fondling him and he asked what time my husband got off work and I told him. I told him to let me know when he wanted to hook up and since then this whole week I have called him like 3 times and he either hasn't answered and he hasn't made the effort to call I know it's horrible because we are both married but I really like this guy. The problem is we have to see each other tomorrow night at a party and I don't know how to act. He always finds a reason to get near me when we are at a social function but why the cold shoulder during the week even after he asked me when we could get together. I feel inadequate like maybe he doesn't like me enough to do some research about me. I need some answers regarding his behavior. Please help!!!
2007-05-04 09:57:35 · 19 answers · asked by bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe instead of trying to dissect THIS issue, you should try to figure out why you are ok with the fact that you are planning to cheat on your husband. I would take care of that issue first. Not trying to be mean, but honest.
2007-05-04 10:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by amanda r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably realized that he doesn't even want to go there with you since the last thing that happened between you to was the whole fondling thing, he probably feels bad about what he did or may do to his wife by cheating on her with you. Flirting is one thing and touching takes things to a whole other level which it seems he isn't ready for. LEAVE HIM ALONE, if he wanted something with you, he'd call or make and effort and since he's not except it for what it is. I totally agree also with the "why are you trying to dissect this situation" when you should be looking at the bigger picture and worry about your marriage first. Stop trying to be a home wrecker. Hopefully neither one of you have kids with your spouses cause that makes this situation even worse and remember GIRL THE GRASS ALWAYS LOOKS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE....and this is bad karma....I think what would happen is he'd use you, your marriage would be distroyed and then he'd go back to his wife (this is always the outcome of these types of situations), then you'll be regreting the day you asked this stupid question...I can't say good luck cause really don't ruin this guys marriage, if your going to cheat on your husband find someone single at least that.
2007-05-04 17:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by justbeingme_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the one playing games. You're right. You are inadequate -- as a wife. Maybe he went out and got some morals this week and decided to do the right thing. Leave him alone.
2007-05-04 17:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're about to loose a husband. You gave you so-called friend, yourself and it satisfied his problem at the moment. When men are in this condition, they usually hook up with a freebie, know they don't have to have any obligation to you. Your marriage is in great trouble. Start thinking about what you are gonna lose.
2007-05-04 17:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by mary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is playing games, or maybe he feels awkward and also dont know how to feel so he is saying things randomly. My boyfriend is playing the same games with me. We have been seriously dating for 4 4months and he hasnt called me in 6 days. Yeah it sucks
2007-05-04 17:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Heartbroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you've been unfaithful, and leave him so he can find someone who deserves him.
Maybe what happened is the guy realized what a huge mistake he was about to make by cheating on his wife, and doing it with someone with no conscience whatsoever.
After you and your husband are divorced, you can sleep with whoever you want.
But don't ever marry, as you obviously aren't willing to abide by your vows, and it's unfair to your husband.
2007-05-04 20:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that if he's married he's just using you. And the fact that you're also married makes it easier for him. No strings attatched is the way he sees it. Don't fool yourself into thinking that he REALLY cares about you. Because, honestly, he only cares about having booty on the side if he can't get it from his wife (or isn't satisfied with the sex he's getting at home).
2007-05-04 17:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by deviant_deviltry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sincerely don't expect someone to answer with how right your are and how wrong he is - do you?? It sounds to me like he's giving himself and you the opportunity to get yourselves back on track with your marriages before you both become a train wrecks! What the heck are you thinking?? Oh well - can't say you weren't warned!
2007-05-04 17:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by cleesurrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both playing games your just a couple of adulterating whores. Grow up and if you are unhappy in your marriage then maybe it's time to let them go instead of cheating and ripping your spouses heart out!!!.
2007-05-04 17:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, maybe he has a concious about hurting his wife and is having second thoughts......if he were a good man worth soemthing that is what he is doing. How could you be so selfish to put your husband through this? To not care about his wife and their family hurting?
2007-05-04 17:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋