why or why not? are there any circumstance when you would definitely get a divorce?
2007-05-04 09:53:22 · 29 answers · asked by Denise08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since I've had 2 of them, it would be stupid to say no. They exist. Your question should've been worded "Do you agree with divorce" or something along those lines...there's no question about "believing in"...that's like asking if you "believe in air"...air exists, we have proof, what's there not to believe?
Relationships typically have a beginning and an end...although the fairy tale "til death" idea sounds romantic, it's often just not practical.
Nothing at all wrong with ending a relationship that isn't working anymore...people grow and change over time, and sometimes they don't do it at the same rate or in the same direction. When a match is no longer good, the people involved should be free to move on if they desire. Why waste a chunk of your life with someone you no longer desire to be with?
Marriage vows should say: "As long as it's good and right for both"...then people who divorce wouldn't be breaking a "til death" vow.
2007-05-04 09:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When a couple vows to be together until death, they're making a very sacred promise - even without religious connotations. That promise should be taken very seriously.
However, situations can change for the absolute worst. Even if you've known someone all your life (and marry them) they can turn into monsters. Marriage changes people sometimes and that's why I believe in divorce.
The only reason I would divorce my husband is if he cheated on me. If he's not going to keep his part of the promise, why should I?
2007-05-04 17:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that when I got married it would be forever. Then I settled for a man who wasn't what I thought he was. I've been separated for about a year now after he quit his job and kept telling me that he was working part time here and there but could never contribute to taking care of bills and things, and he was never home. He's currently living with the girl he got pregnant while he was still telling me he loved me and wanted to come home. That's a situation that calls for divorce in my book. And if he had ever hit me or the kids that would have been it, absolutely no second chances there.
2007-05-04 16:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by citydwelling_countrygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you should go into a marriage with divorce on your mind...if that's your plan B then that's what you'll jump to when times get tough, whereas if it's not an option in your mind you'll try harder to keep the relationship going.
Infidelity is the #1 breaker for me. That above all else. Once I know that about someone I'm with, I never look at them the same way again.
2007-05-04 16:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by anon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that once you decide to get married, it should be to someone who loves you with all they have and you love them with all you have. If this is the case, and there is complete trust between the two, there should never be need for a divorce. Yes, they may have their differences and arguments and fights, but if the love is strong then there is nothing that they cant work through. When i get married, he will be mine forever and ever...i wont marry someone if there is any doubts that he will be unfaithful or lie. Love is a powerful thing, and if its true...nothing can break it.
2007-05-04 17:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by KJC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really can't say yes o no. I think that if you decide oh, I don't like you anymore, then no. That's not okay. If the husband (or wife) was having an afair, or was abusive, then that is understandable. I would never want to live with a person like that. But I guess it really just depends on the circumstances.
2007-05-04 17:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by You Are My Sunshine<333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced once already. I had a five-year marriage to a guy who physically, psychologically and emotionally battered me and my son. After he brought home not one but TWO std's, I was done.
I would never hesitate to consider the alternative again in similar circumstances, or if I found out my current husband was screwing around.
2007-05-04 16:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
divorce is never a good thing. Divorce may be necessary in order to protect ones self or other family members. In my opinion, If you cheate or are thinking about cheating on your Significant Other, you have, by default, divorced yourself from them. Marriage is built on trust. If you break that trust,you can't get it back
2007-05-04 17:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by steve M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think divorce is okay if you are being mistreated, or especially if kids are being mistreated - emotionally or physically. Some people are just way too difficult to live with but I also think that people get divorced mainly because of their pride and the inability to say they are sorry and try to do better.
2007-05-04 17:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my wife was unfaithful during an extended affair I was able to justify divorce, but waited to see if we could work things out. After a couple of years (even though I believe the affair was over) she was so mad at me for finding out and asking her to end the affair that I finally left. Honestly, best thing I ever did.
2007-05-04 16:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋