ok. my husband of four years had asked for a divorce and i told him that i would gladly sign the divorce paper when it is all ready and put together, three months later he stop by our home to bring by some of my things and he did not bring any divorce papers nor did he even mentioned it, he looks very depress and just said thank you and left....should i ask him about the divorce paper? i do not want a divorce, but at the same time i do not want to just sit and wait. what should i do? i still love my husband.
2007-05-04 09:46:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe the next time you see him, you should ask him about it and mention that you've both had time to think now, what about giving it another shot (or approach him)? Don't move back in with him right away, but date him. Start spending some time together and see how it goes. See if the issues can be worked out. Attend marriage counselling together.
Good luck. I hope it all works out.
2007-05-04 09:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go get divorce papers and let him know that you guys are at a impasse and he needs to make a decision. Let him know how you feel and leave the papers with him...tell him you'll pick them up in two weeks and if he signed them, then he made his choice.
Good Luck!
"When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn't a sign that they "don't understand" one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.”
-Helen Rowland
2007-05-04 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he brought up divorce as a desperate act to see how you would react. A threat? He wasn't expecting you to not react. He was playing a game and maybe he lost. It might be time for somebody to level... If you don't want a divorce, you should try writing him a letter.
2007-05-04 17:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he would like to try it again. I am not saying move in together at this point but try dating again.
Maybe he still loves you as well. Also, by you asking if he wants to try again it shows him that you care. (and you'll know if he truly wants a divorce.)
2007-05-04 16:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find some time to talk to him about this. It is an important subject. Communication is important, even when ending a marriage. Good luck.
2007-05-04 16:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by k h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. If you really don't want this tell him. " I know we've had some time apart to think about things, and if this is really what you want to do then ok. But in all honesty I'm willing to work it out and fight for my marriage."
2007-05-04 17:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by redbone_dime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. He could be depressed about something that has nothing to do with you. The only way you will find out is to ask him.
2007-05-04 16:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him that question. I would be up front and lay it all out.
Maybe he feels like there's no chance of going back since he was the one who wanted the divorce.
2007-05-04 16:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patty porkchop, you should ask about the papers. Tell Don Juan to bring the papers or shaddup......
2007-05-04 16:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT IS SAD TO HEAR THAT. DID HE GIVE U ANY
REASON WHAT SO EVER? SOMETIMES IT IS
JUST BETTER TO GO SEPERATE WAYS EVEN
THOUGH THE OTHER WISHES NOT TO. AS FOR
THE PAPERS MAYBE IS JUST FORGOT THEM.
ONLY HE KNOWS WHERE THEY ARE . JUST
REMEMBER THIS IS NOT THE END OF THE
WORLD..... GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES...........
2007-05-04 16:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋