My point is that the affair ended badly with an exchange of extremely harsh words and anger. I'm thankful it did end, it just hurts like hell. Perhaps I wanted to have a civil ending? Others have said it had to end badly or it would have never ended at all. Just wanting to hear feedback from those that have been through this....
2007-05-04 09:31:54 · 15 answers · asked by Perplexed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The others are right. If you parted any other way it wouldn't really have ended, one or the other of you would try to get back together eventually. Stick to your gut feeling. Of course it hurts right now, give yourself time and move on.
2007-05-04 09:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it depends on what you mean by BAD! The fact that I had an affair meant something had already went bad. Does it have to hurt? YES! You can fall in love with more than one person, but you can not Intimately LOVE more than one person. A very hard lesson I had to learn. I realized that once it could be classified as an affair I cared for both and no matter what choice at that point I were to make I would end up hurting somebody, my wife, my family, and the other woman. And especially no matter what I did it would hurt for me. The best thing to do at that point was to choose the solution that would cause the least amount of pain to my wife and children. I still hurt and have severe depression because of the whole ordeal from a little over a year ago! But yes, the affair did ended civilly as well as me telling my wife about what I had done. However I feel my marriage still suffers. Whether it is from the problem that led to the affair or because of the affair itself, I will never be able to say because of the fact that I put that variable into the problem. Oh by the way we never had sex or even had a physical meeting, just talked, but the intent was still there. Sorry and the best of luck, you will need it, I promise!
2016-04-01 08:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always end badly for someone. The term affair signifies
that something is wrong. some one will get hurt. The wife, the husband the children or one of the two involved.
2007-05-04 09:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of curse it hurts a lot but think about civil ending not good for both persons even if there extremely harsh words from both and think about those happy moments you two have together and keep it like that don't get me wrong but the best thing is deal with that and let it go and other thing from the beginning you should know better that maybe is going to end like that.
2007-05-04 09:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by ella? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes b/c they are never meant to be in the first place. that's why god only made 2 people at first not 3. i wish for all affairs to end badly personally b/c i've been on the other end and it's no fun trying to get over it and to forgive the person.
2007-05-04 09:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never cheated on my husband. But the person you were having the affair with probably thought you would leave your husband or wife and be with them.
Honestly, you should feel hurt because you were cheating. You are human and you can't just turn off and on your feelings. I am guessing in time you will feel better.
Try to remember this pain and don't do it again that is just my opinion.
2007-05-04 09:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all affairs end badly. It depends entirely on the people involved. Sounds like the two of you did not handle it well.
2007-05-04 09:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on who did what... i say the person who cheated deserves to sit there and take everything the other has to say, it might hurt, but those are just words.. can you emagine how hard it is for the person who got cheated on.. things happen for a reason, either the person got tired and uninterested with the other and cheated as a way out or just because they were to afraid to break up with their partner, or they just made a huge mistake and suffered the out-come of it all.. i dont think it's right to cheat and i wouldn't forgive anyone for doing that, it is a big no-no and people that do, deserve everything that comes to them.. one thing i do not understand is if your dating someone, you cheat with another person and then you date that person.. why would you want to date someone that cheats on their lover for you, are you sure their not gonna do it to you this time.... cheating is evil and hurts... stay single and get a friend with benefits.. thats what i say! lol good luck and best wishes!
2007-05-04 09:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an affair it shouldn't have started in the first place. Who cares if it hurts you, you didn't care that you were hurting your significant other. You should work on one relationship at a time & quit messing around.
2007-05-04 09:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by tjmoore83102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's an affair, it's great that you ended it, badly or not. You should be more concerned with whether your signficant other will ever forgive you than if the ladyfriend does.
2007-05-04 09:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋