how do i get my soon to be husben to help out pick up the house and washing clothing??
2007-05-04 09:23:28 · 18 answers · asked by chatt_girl200200 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-04 09:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an ongoing question..... it is very tough. I am a newlywed and I have the same problem. I have started to find a bit of a solution though. I have started to use the word "we" a lot. Let me explain. Instead of just going to do laundry, I will say something like - WE sure have a lot of laundry to do tonight. Or, when thinking of making supper, I say - What would you like for supper, WE could make lasagne, steak, etc. This has been working so well. Last weekend I said We have some housecleaning to do this weekend and he got off the couch and cleaned the bathroom! And they say you can not teach an old dog new tricks!!! Good luck!
2007-05-04 16:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lacey H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, that's all I can say!
Who knows? Maybe you'll luck out. Find out what his ideals are by asking him outright how he sees the household chores being split between you. If you don't already live with him, ask him right off the bat, "okay, how do you want to split the chores?" Make it clear right off the bat that he will be expected to clean up after himself and do part of the household work. Maybe have an idea to present to him, like, "If you will make sure your laundry is in the laundry basket in the bedroom, I'll make sure it gets washed. Do you think you could do dishes every 2nd night? Vaccuum once a week?"
Try to get him trained from the get go. Otherwise, I'll see back here in 6 months with the question, "WHY WON'T HE HELP ME??????" It's common, dear - get on him from the get go, but don't be pushy.
2007-05-04 16:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so lucky!!!!
my husband cleans and even shampoo's the carpet!
he is a great man.
i do not think you can change a man if he was raised that way!!!
im not sure if my husband's mom made him clean, but he is in the military and that is why he likes things **** and spam....
i am always cleaning (even after i just cleaned)
so whats the big deal?
if you want him to pick up his crap then make that clear jsut tell him... but washing clothes?
why cant you? i know it should be equally between the two.
but you just gotta tell him!
if my husband comes home, and leaves his shoes out i just tell him " go put your shoes away im not your maid and i just cleaned"
or " go pick up your clothes off the floor, or hang the towel up"
i mean just tell him its only fair!!!!!!
and if he wants it to work out he will help out.
every now and then my husband will wash clothes but thats if im sick or something.... you should do the laundry... men mess clothes up!!
all your white clothes will be pink!or blue!
2007-05-04 16:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply stop doing it.
Pick up AROUND his mess. Wash just your clothes. When he confronts you about it tell him to either help or hire you a maid.
Marriage is 50/50 and that includes the household duties.
Good luck.
2007-05-04 16:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by RAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a husband to pick up after himself is like the "Mortgage Fairy!" It's not real and it's not going to happen!
2007-05-04 16:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than nag him, perhaps you could try explaining why it bothers you so much. Like "honey, when you leave your dirty socks and underwear all over the livingroom, it makes me feel dirty, and I don't want to have friends over when it's like that."
At least then he'll know why you care, and might (stress the word "might") make him think differently about it. Then, it's his choice to help you feel better.
2007-05-04 16:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Left Bank Hook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is old enough to marry and still can't clean up after himself and take care of his daily needs, then give it up. He's never going to change.
2007-05-04 16:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know, that you can never get a guy to do anything they dont want to. Okay? So either you tell him to do this and get him mad or just deal with it maybe he'll come around!
2007-05-04 16:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by shelbyroxhardcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't.
But you might be able to find things that he WILL do.
If he does some stuff, and you do other stuff, everything will get done.
The chances of you changing him are small.
2007-05-04 19:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way he gets you to do what he wants.
Find a way to motive each other.
FYI, men are basic use sex or food.
2007-05-04 16:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋