Am I evil???

Question

Ok this is the end of my first year of nursing school and I can work as a nurse extern, problem is it is very competitive and I am having a hard time getting a job. My clinical instructor works at ver well known hospital and told me that her manager is lookn for externs and she would put a good word in and recommendation and when she first mentioned it was sort of hush, hush and I had not told anyone b/c I know how competitive everyone is, so I gave her my resume and applied online for the position, this was 1-2 weeks ago so yesterday my instructor cam up to me and start giveing me some advice about interviwing and telling me what I was up against in front of everyone I was so MAD b/c she happened to say it in front of a good friend that works at the hospital doing something else so NOW my friend all day yesterday and today talked about how she wants an extern position and she has never mentioned this b4 mind you she has a very good job maken WAY more money that she would as a extern

I am very irritated by this b/c she has her foot in the door already which is an advantage over me and I am pissed. She is very competitive and she knows our instructor really favors me a lot should I be mad????

getting this job could be a very ggod thing for me and I can have a job when I graduate she already works there

I am having very evil thoughts about her I dont even really want to talk to her

Answer 1

No. This is real life in the working world. It's not personal. It's work. You don't get mad, you just take care of business. Never get mad. Anger clouds your judgment.

You might want to take the instructor aside and let her know that it's unprofessional to discuss another person's career in public.

As far as your friend goes, you may end up competing with her, head to head, for the job. You'll be competing with others, anyway, so she's just one more player. Prepare for the interview as best you can. You can mend your fence with your friend by suggesting that you both coach each other for the extern interview and any tests that might be involved. She'll know that there are no hard feelings, so your friendship is secure, and if you win, there won't be a problem. If she wins, then you have a friend who can help you get a job.

Sometimes, you have to sacrifice an opportunity for the big picture. Always help your friends, if you can. In any job, always try to make your coworkers, and yes, your competitors look good. Be the positive force. Sometimes, this will set you back, but in the long run, it will strongly work to your advantage.

Remember. Work and your personal life are SEPARATE PLACES. Emotion stays at home with your personal life. At work, be professional. Be focused. If you are the positive force, where you work, people will come out of the woodwork to help you further your goals. If you are a troublemaker, you might get to where you're going by brute force, but it will always be a dramatic, epic struggle for you.

Answer 2

I would be very mad. If this is a good friend to you she should have maybe at least mentioned the idea that she'd like to do an externship too. And she should already know how competitive the field is. Or maybe she's really not that good of a friend and is really looking out for her best interest which what sounds like to be the case. I do not think you are evil!!! It is a natural response. Do not worry. I hope something comes along BETTER for you. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Calm down, you said your instructor favors you. She may have her foot in the door but you have a recommendation. Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Don't try to sabotage your friend, things could backfire and make you look bad. Be prepared and practice your interview skills. The fact that your instructor is recommending you is a testament to your abilities. Do the best you can and don't worry so much. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Well, you probably need to try to stay a step ahead, I would come to class early, maintain a better relationship with your instructor, keep after the instructor about the position, If you think you deserve this position, than work for it. Nothing in life is free.

Answer 5

No, you're not evil. You just feel betrayed by someone you thought had your best interests at heart. Sometimes "friend" aren't really what we think they are. That's what makes life the clusterf*ck it is. Just interview and do the best you can. Whip this other girl so badly she'll be sorry she ever went against you. Best of luck to you, I know you have a good heart, obviously you do with the career you've chosen.

Answer 6

Nope. Your friend needs some ex-lax brownies though. Or a kick in the a**. Or maybe a the x-lax brownies AND a kick in the a** right as the stuff kicks in. Put a baggie on your foot first though, because it might just all explode out of there, and you don't want to get any on your shoe.

Answer 7

Well, no you are not evil, and I guess you have to let it take it's course, since there are many people fighting for this position, you have to face the fact that you may not get it.

I suggest you start just not only relying on this one position , but start looking at other positions, just incase this one falls through, maby your friend will not get it either, maby you both will not get it.

Do not let it upset you, but I would start putting my resume at other places and not just rely on this one!!!

The more you get your self out there, the more you will get noticed!

Answer 8

Hey, if you are evil, I'm evil too. I'd feel the same way. She already has a job, so maybe if you reason with her and explain how you really want this, if she is a true friend, she will back off.

Answer 9

No.

First, relax and remember that is your friend. You have favor with your teacher that's a plus. Secondly, your friend won't be able to afford the pay cut and will probably pass.

So, stay focused on you. Do what you need to do to get yourself where you need to be. We don't call that being evil, we call it achieving your goals.

Good luck.

Answer 10

No dogs get mad, but you should be hurt. Try to keep your cool. Good nurses are tested on how they handle people, So just smile and do your best !